New Trigger - A Crush Sends Emotions Wild

[aowyn]

Soooo...just acknowledging it is what helps? Or is there other work to do after you've turned the stone over.

 

[Deleted member 93]

When you overturn a stone so to speak, another and another keeps coming. Hell, you feel like you are getting beaten down from them until you have pretty much reprocessed everything. Acknowledging goes a long way but it is not enough alone. You will see a pattern to your way of thinking that was unhealthy and you work at going through traumas and things that you may have thought were just trivial hiccups in your life and are not trauma. You go through and feel those things again, you examine it and how you can change it. Because if it pops up during healing it is still unfinished within you and needs to be gone through again. Accept blame for where it truly belongs to you and let go of the guilt of the ones that are not truly yours. The ones that are really yours are harder IMO to get through, but it can be done. Grieve, understand how it has shaped you into you. See how you can turn this into something good. You can and will in time.

 

[GR-ass]

And if you need to take time before turning over the next stone? I hope taking pauses is alright cos I seem to be stuck in one hell of a rut at the moment

 

[Deleted member 93]

Mine did not pause for me. If I was stuck it was because I was not done digging at that area of my mind yet.

 

[GR-ass]

Grrrs and can't think of a cuss word strong enough

Them stones are staying where they are cos if I turn them over I'm scared I'll permanantly damage an asshole I live with.

I need to move the feck out of this place before I do something stupid. Shit I wish I could pull myself out of this depression. Would be okay if it was just a sad mood. It's all this self destructive shit I'm scared of facing

 

[Deleted member 93]

No doubt Cass, you are stuck between a rock and a hard place on that one. I hope you can find a way to heal, and come to terms. A way to examine the emotions and do what you need without lashing out or at yourself. I do not have a clue how I would handle it. I honestly do not know how you have not lashed out. You have done very well considering your living arrangements right now. I wish I had advice for you. I know you want to move so suggesting that is just telling you what you already would do if you could. My heart goes out to you on this one.