Night Time Problem

[Bucky]

Hi,

I'm pretty new here so I apologise if this is in the wrong place. I was wondering if someone would be able to offer me some advice. I've been suffering from PTSD for a while now (sorry, I'm not comfortable being specific yet) and I've started having problems with bed-wetting. This happened to me before immediately after the traumatic event and seems to have been lurking away until recently. I've woke up in the early hours to a wet bed a few times. I talked to my partner about it today and he was totally understanding and caring (as he always is) and we both decided the best course of action would be to buy what seems to be tactfully referred to as adult 'slips'. I bought some today and got them out of the packaging and there's no way around this, they're nappies. They're shaped the same, they're the same thickness, everything. I've tried putting one on tonight and can't seem to do it, I've never had to do it before, not to myself, another adult or a child so have no idea what I'm doing. The instructions on the packaging aren't helping either. My partner has offered to help but I can't bear the thought of him basically putting a nappy on me because why should he have to?

I guess what I'm asking is how to make myself feel more comfortable with wearing these at night and whether I should just let my partner help? I don't know....I hope this makes sense.

 

[Jester]

I have urinary incontinence because of a birth defect, so wearing adult diapers is nothing new to me. My advice is to find some that are "slip on;" these are marked inside the waistband to show which is the back and front. If you're using the kind with the tabs that wrap around the side, those things are more difficult. If you can, return those to the store and find some that slip on. If you can't return the ones you have now, I'd say let your partner help you put them on. It is uncomfortable, yes, but you can grow accustomed to it because--presumably--your partner loves you.

It will take a while to get used to wearing them. Even as a kid I went through that phase. You hit that age where you're changing into gym clothes with peers, and they start to wonder why you're going into a separate stall to change. You have the support of your partner, I'm assuming, which should help with getting used to wearing them, but it's still going to take time. You might start to feel better when your sheets are consistently dry in the morning. You should still speak openly with your therapist about this (if you have one); they may be able to help more than any of us on this forum could.

 

[Queen Boudica]

Have you checked out that there isn't a medical reason for this? It could be as simple as a weak pelvic floor?

 

[Jester]

I would be glad to write you a detailed explanation on how to fasten your diapers, if you are willing to give me the brand name of what you've bought.

 

[Bucky]

Thanks for all your help!

I've managed to get myself sorted in terms of putting them on. I think I'll take your advice Jester and get the pull up kind when I run out of the ones I bought today, there's only 10 to a pack so I don't have to wait too long. It seems like a much simpler way to go. My T is currently on annual leave so I don't have an appointment with him until the 15th of this month but I'll definately be bringing it up with him and seeing what he has to say.

Lizio, I hadn't even considered the medical aspect of it! I'd assumed that it was purely a PTSD related symptom but I think it would be good to explore all possibilities so I'll make an appointment with my doc!

 

[Leah Morgan]

I have started the same due to nightmares, since March not every night but enough. My husband is supportive but my friends are better. My two best friends suggested dry nights pee pads coz I wriggle so much pants leak. She even helped me find some really cheaply in bulk from Amazon. I'm very luck to have people who really don't care. But if the pants are a struggle this was my solution.