No One Takes My Triggers Seriously

[non imiss]

Tumblr has made it so that everything is triggering, from birds to grass to blood to baths. Because of this no one takes me seriously when I say things like violence and yelling trigger me and cause me to have panic attacks. Someone was yelling at me the other day and then when I was hyperventilating they laughed at me and shouted "What?! Am I 'triggering' you?!" I have had many anxiety and panic attacks because no one takes me seriously when I mention my triggers. I use tumblr and some people are genuinely triggered by things like birds, grass, bugs, etc, but because of how "ridiculous sounding" some triggers are to people no one is taking my triggers seriously and this is affecting me directly.

 

[Neverthesame]

Why was someone yelling at you? Were there any other people around? Was this at work, school, or other public place?
Did you report this person to Management, Dean of students, police?

I agree that sometimes things can be trivialized to the point of being ludicrous. But it is also up to us to be in charge of ourselves.

As calming as it would be, we cannot expect the world to walk on eggshells around us because we have a sensitivity to certain situations.

As for someone yelling at you and mocking you. That is just unacceptable behaviour to show anyone. I hope you told the guy to go f' himself.

 

[Friday]

The TumblR thing is over my head... Don't use it/ not sure how it applies? (Do they post trigger warnings? Kinda silly, everything would need a trigger warning)... But all triggers are serious.

Upside: No one else is responsible for our triggers. We are.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

How has Tumblr made it so that everything is triggering for you? I don't understand. If you know these people on tumblr, why do you keep going back?

 

[Justmehere]

Do you have PTSD? Diagnosed by a professional?

 

[digger]

Can you explain the Tumblr thing for us? Did you post about your own triggers on there and someone has trivialised them? Or you're struggling with other people talking about their triggers there? Sorry, but your post really isn't very clear. You are likely to get more feedback if you can clarify things a bit.

 

[meltot]

Longtime lurker, first post--howdy y'all ;) What she's trying to say is that there's a trend on Tumblr to embellish, boast, or even falsify certain mental issues or disorders to receive attention, sensitivity, ego validation, or to justify/excuse some insufferable or strange behaviors. People used to be open and honest about their real issues in certain subcultures (special online forums, or social circles in real life) and enjoyed and just kept to their comfortable and accepting communities. If I had to guess, the emerging anti-bullying and 'love yourself' movements encouraged people to tell all and be "real" on social media. Great, but there are drawbacks. For instance it gives the LGBT community much more good exposure and acceptance, but with some folks joining the bandwagon with made-up gender definitions and other things that trivialize the legitimate alternative sexualities and their struggle. See an artsy, edgy girl with cool pictures and an amazing-seeming life who blogs her thoughts and you can relate? She has a lot of friends/followers? She mentions she has PTSD? PTSD is cool now. Say I'm a 15yo Tumblr user admiring this girl, I once had a balloon pop in my face, now I'm scared of balloons, now I've self-diagnosed PTSD and I will rant to you for daring to post a birthday card with balloons on it—that's my trigger! That sounds silly, but it's not at all far-fetched. I'm sure there's someone out there who is reminded of some brutal assault by seeing a balloon that brings back the scenery, but they aren't going to blame the florist whose window it was in. I've seen a heavy-set person asking others not to post things about dieting where they can accidentally come across it—it triggers them to simply feel bad about their weight. Being weird and sensitive and different with a disorder name to blame and get defensive about is the going thing right now. I've seen endless Tumblr posts romaticizing depression/suicide, eating disorders, cutting, abuse (victim's perspective), addiction, and other kinds of suffering with a beautiful picture and a sad, sad quote. I digress. Anyway, triggers have lost their meaning since they've been redefined, and now anyone who is aware of this ridiculous trend find it hard to take actual sufferers seriously, or mock or use contempt as in OP's personal example. And I think she means that the person won't stop even if she mentions what it triggers, thanks to them being a right pr*ck fueled on by their cynical feelings toward Tumblr melodrama. I agree with whoever said our triggers are ours alone to deal with, but I, too am angry with this trend that gets us ridiculed. :shifty:

 

[Born to Run]

What a sick culture! I would suggest to avoid this Tumblr to keep your sanity.

 

[Ocean5]

"ridiculous sounding" some triggers are to people no one is taking my triggers seriously and this is affecting me directly.

I get triggers all too often, and others not understanding. Also social media like Tumbler uhhh...how they change. People respond so fast without thinking, and others are leaches. Don't let them bring you down. No matter what type of social media.

I've never felted judge here...and I'm new in past year. Just support and understanding here.