Odd things i like about my t

[deeplyloved]

It’s not ideal but my therapist’s office is 1.5 hours away from my house. If there is bad weather or I need an extra session we sometimes meet over video. She also did this for me when she was on vacation and I was really struggling. We don’t do heavy processing over video, it’s usually just about stabilization and connection.

 

[Tinyflame]

she sometimes gets distracted by her own picture and starts trying to fix her hair.

That would really be off-putting to me unless it was a joke. :(

 

[deeplyloved]

That would really be off-putting to me unless it was a joke. :(

I can see that! I tend to put people on pedestals and be disproportionately hard on myself. So these little humanizing flaws help me be more balanced. Does that make sense? Having my “perfect” therapist get momentarily distracted and self-conscious about her hair helps me to be more compassionate with myself and my own flaws. And she doesn’t pretend it didn’t happen...she names it and laughs and apologizes.

 

[Tinyflame]

It's ok @deeplyloved I came back to erase it as I didn't mean to post a negative. Yes sure it makes perfect sense. For me, I would think of it as ego and head not in the game, rather than self-conscious, esp considering the cost. I suppose mostly it would silence me (but that's just me, it's too hard to talk, as is).

It's ok if it works for you! :tup: :hug:

 

[Nessa7]

My therapist has a bathroom that I don't have to ask permission to use. In other offices, I've had to ask receptionists to unlock the door or sign a sheet so they can hunt me down if I trash it. I rarely use it, but it makes me feel more comfortable to know I could use the bathroom if I wanted to.

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes @Nessa7 esp if you're sick to your stomach.

@deeplyloved I came back to say this because I think I have better words to explain, and hope this makes sense because I'm rushing, but:

I tend to put people on pedestals and be disproportionately hard on myself. So these little humanizing flaws help me be more balanced. Does that make sense?

yes, and for myself I don't put people on pedestals (even trusting is a pedestal to me I fear greatly)- human is human; but it's when I am to be made to feel equally raised 'up' to human, that's a really nice feeling. Odd- but nice. I like 'foibles', :) . I'm just happy to rise to the status of the human race. :)

I think to be able to feel better, whatever things or actions help that, is wonderful. Anywhere else it's kind of standard expectation to not relax, but when it comes to feeling better/ less sick/ less ashamed/ more human, I think whatever contributes to that, as the others have said, makes a lot of difference in being able to tackle this stuff, and keep trying. Like your T being honest, and you being honest too.

(..Although I'd draw the line at blowing bubbles, or I'd have to blow a bigger bubble myself. :p ;))

:hug: to you.

 

[Deleted member 37474]

On the same page as what @Junebug and @deeplyloved loved said...

I like that my T will sometimes make fun of herself in a funny way. One time, she said, “wow, I sound like someone from out of the 60’s.” Also, when we first met, she also seemed nervous. It is really comforting to know that T’s are human and share in the same insecurities as the rest of us.

 

[Kopykat]

My therapist has so many sweaters it is kinda amazing. She also will talk to me about random things and handles my weird really well. I wish she was a hugger but she’s not. We have been together 5 years and for real is probably my longest and most stable relationship. She swears, she gets super pumped about feelings which sometimes I have to tell her to slow her roll, if I bake things she accepts them from me and is a taste tester. It’s a unique relationship.

 

[Deleted member 41765]

My T has a ridiculously ugly pillow on her couch that seemingly appeared out of nowhere and makes me laugh every time I see it. She said she is keeping it just for that reason. Also, she says f*ck.

 

[barefoot]

I like that she swears like a trooper.

Also, that she will sometimes just burst into song (it is in context - she doesn’t just start singing a random song for no reason) and doesn’t seem to feel at all self-conscious about that.

She also has strange (unusual not bad) hair. In that, I don’t think it can be natural...but I also don’t really know how she has made it go like that. So I am fascinated by her hair and what she does with it and how it comes to look like it does.

Also, she has so, so many facial expressions, which all make her look really different. So, I am quite fascinated by her face and what she can do with it. It used to be quite unsettling that I could never really picture her face out of session and I think that was partly because she had so many looks. Now, I quite like identifying the different looks.

She also wears nice shoes.

And she has a very dirty laugh.

 

[FauxLiz]

I like that he is willing to make accommodations to make our time together work. This means accepting my crazy work schedule that doesn't have any consistence past 9 am so he comes in before the practice opens to meet with me. He allows me to text him when I am in crisis as my job is such that local hotlines are funded by my employer and first responders report indirectly to me.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I have seen my currant therapist off and on for many years now and I am back for a tune up so to speak. She works with children so her office has a lot of games, coloring materials, and some great plants. She also has pretty colored stones layed out on a table and she told me I could keep as many as I wanted so I took three different colored stones which I keep besides me to help ground me and feel safe and I really appreciate that she types up what things she has suggested for me to do after I leave her office. I also like her laugh and her common sense.