Other Ways Of Saying 'f*ck Off'!

[WillThereBeCake]

One thing that I found was that when my family was beating me up about my weight and other habits, it made them worse. My family ganged up on me about my weight, and I only weighed 130 lbs (US). WTH? They are all beanpoles, and I have something they've never heard of. I think they are called hips ;) In any case, I got so worried and they'd beat up my self esteem so bad, I started eating more and put on another 20 lbs. I also was a smoker, but my light smoking became a two pack a day habit because I would just sit around and stew about all their horrible comments and "helpful" suggestions.

Once I got rid of all that rubbish (for me it came to the point of a complete break) I started feeling better and better. I just woke up one day and realized that I wanted to be healthier for ME. Before I had been just trying to please them. Not for approval, just to shut them up. So, I quit smoking and lost 25 lbs. Even Drs. will tell you not to try to quit smoking and diet at the same time, but I was fine because both habits came from a now gone stressor.

Smoking is bad, and I should have quit long ago, but it was frankly none of their business. Weight is an issue only when it is a health issue. When their comments are around vanity and they say things like, "Well, at least you have a nice smile", those comments are counter-productive and hurtful, and they know it. That shows they really aren't trying to help, they are just trying to exploit your weaknesses because they are being ugly.

I don't even have to say out these things can trigger our PTSD. You have to get to a point where your own health is priority, however YOU choose to define it. Anyone that repeatedly (and especially intentionally) causes me stress is gone. My cup is already full and I can't risk anything that would make me want to snack, smoke or lose sleep.

 

[HëllaBubz]

It hasn't been too bad the past few days, other than gran asking me in front of everyone at dinner if my weight was over 95kg, and when I said it was, she then goes ahead and says that I'm too fat to fly in my grandfather's plane anyway.

Also got told that I will 'snap out of it, you're a strong girl and you'll snap out of it one day, I'm sure of it."

At least I know she wasn't being malicious, but it was irritating non the less.

Went out to Mt Beauty today with my grandfather, brother and partner, was really nice but had a chicken and mushroom pie for lunch, gave the meat bits to my brother so as not to set off my stomach.
Just vomited for a half hour straight, and not feeling so great, so I definitely know meat is off the menu totally!

Fiance told Gran that I was having no food, so of course she starts pushing icecubes, frozen fruit, soup, everything she can think of, partner keeps saying No, No, No, so she sends him to ask me instead whilst I'm recovering in the shower!

So I told him to send back my 'thundercloud' face.....and he laughed and said he would do so.

It hasn't been so bad the past few days, but dad had a word in Gran's ear, and Rhett point blank refuses anything that will set me off, so it has helped.

It feels GOOD to put my foot down.

Or your other half for you!

My cup is already full and I can't risk anything that would make me want to snack, smoke or lose sleep.

The last time I had a smoke was for the first time in 4 years, I had to help 'try' to revive a well dead gentleman at the nursing home whose family refused to accept that he had passed on, so we broke 6 ribs performing CPR and then myself and another level headed bloke washed him up because all the other PCA's were freaking out like old women.........I REALLY needed a smoke after that.

they are just trying to exploit your weaknesses because they are being ugly.

Over the past few days, my grandfather has finally gotten an idea of how much of a lying, manipulative and nasty individual my father really was/is, and I let him know just some of the crap that the old man really got up to.

And for the first time in my life, I actually saw shock and revulsion cross the face of the man who does not cry, and I was amazed just how in the dark he had been kept.