Please Pray For My Brother

[sonicwhite]

Stickler what do you mean by not telling the truth. About my brother or about someone I would potentially marry? Because I'm not going back down that road where I fall in love with someone and I feel so guilty that I tell the truth and al hell breaks loose.


If a woman wants me she can take time off to reflect wether she wants me or not. I'm cool with that. I just don't want to hide secrets. That's what made my last relationship fail.

 

[sonicwhite]

Anyone?

 

[Fadeaway]

@sonicwhite I think it was pretty clear @Stickler was talking about not telling your brother. Did you call and have a welfare check done on him yet?

As far as telling a girl you have and STD I would tell them before they had a chance to feel like they have put in a reasonable amount of effort into building a relationship.

 

[Ronin]

^ Yep.

Sonic, that's not about you.

That's literally about THEIR health & lives.
Your partners are entitled to know that kind of information, if it can endanger their health by interacting with you.

Prior to interacting with you.

Fair to the ladies, man. Respecting yourself from the day one in a relationship, too.

 

[sonicwhite]

I'm going to tell my mom how Mikey is acting and have her call them. The thing is drugs are involved like meth. If they find that he will go to jail and we don't need a repeat of my trauma in 05 were I was stuck in jail.

 

[sonicwhite]

It was my ex from eleven years ago that gave me this. I man I finally understand now why she said it was her and not me. She never told me anything even tho I saw some things that didn't look right. She said she had never had sex before. I know now that's a lie and now I have to live with the pain and hurt she did to me for the rest of my life.




Oh well onto my bro. I don't have the strength to call welfare because it would just cause so many problems and I hate lying. I'm just telling my mom.

 

[sonicwhite]

My brother is going to end up dead and he makes sure everyone in the family sees it. He has no compassion nor does he see his folly. I'm getting very tired of him posting stuff on my fb saying how he was mistreated as a kid and such.


I in the family was the most abused child physically. And I still love my dad. You can just tell he's going off a cliff and there isn't anything anyone can do about it. I know my mom knows he's acted out like he is but what can any of us do to help him? I'm talking to mom later today to see what's up about getting him locked up.

 

[illusionist]

Take it from someone who has recently lost a brother through drug abuse...don't stick your head in the sand and say it is not your place etc etc.....it will only leave you with deep regret.

Relationships take far more than prayers.....they take a lot of work and acceptance. Everyone of us react differently to our past.....that includes our siblings who have been through similar to ourselves.

I really do understand where you are coming from...been there....but so wish my brother was still around for me to be " very tired of his posting on fb "

It was me who lacked compassion, not him...he just never had the space in his head to think of others because he was too choked up in trying to deal with stuff....there wasn't any room left.

I'm Damn sure I would lie and cause problems to make sure that someone I loved got the help they needed....in fact I have....and I have no bad conscience about it at all. It could save a life.

Please, please don't depend on prayers ......your brother needs actions.

 

[sonicwhite]

I do love my brother don't get me wrong. And him doing this to us is heartbreaking. I don't know where to begin other then calling NYC Police. And even then I have no clue where he is staying.


I can only hope my mom and him are still talking so she can give the ins and outs as to where he is. My brother was in outpatient rehab. He was doing well doing as they say until somewhere he got mixed up with drugs or maybe it's just his brain that is jacked up. I'm assuming he is using due to what he talks about.


He would rather staying looking like a dead man then have meat on him. This is breaking my heart.

 

[illusionist]

Can't you find out by talking to him on Facebook?...maybe ask to meet up with him...talk face to face with him?

 

[sonicwhite]

He's not talking to me anymore. He's says I'm dead to him. I don't understand. This is just bad folks. I want my brother alive not dead. This hurts me to the core and I can only imagine what it is doing to my mom.


So all in all I'm trying to get into contact with my mom but she never picks up the phone. The times I see her on fb are rare so I don't know anymore.