Pot

[Casey_03]

My cousin has just informed me that she and other relatives are going to be smoking weed in our home later tonight. Despite my newborn baby. She says it won't have an affect on the baby if they smoke in the basement and open the windows and I'm upstairs. This is very alarming to me. I don't know how much of an affect it would have, if any. But I don't think anybody knows. Which is why it's generally not a good idea.

I have nowhere to go. These people obviously don't care about my baby's wellbeing or mine. I need help. But I have nowhere to go.

What do I do? Help

 

[Virtues]

Why not put your foot down? It is your home right? Tell her she is not welcome if she is going to be smoking in your home, and if she can't respect that then you will forcibly remove her.

 

[Casey_03]

It is not my home, that's the problem. It's a home left to all of us in my grandma's will. They have rights here too.

 

[Virtues]

I see, now I understand a little bit better. I'm guessing you have no where you can go by your post? Not saying being pushed out of your own home is fair either, but when talking about the welfare of your infant you are really caught between a rock and a hard place. Your options are to ask them to leave (which I'm guessing they will not), You leave yourself, or you call the Police on them for illegal drugs (which will open a whole other can of worms that I really don't suggest going down that road). The final option is that you stay and bear it, and I really don't know if the 2nd hand smoke will have any effects on your baby. I really wish I had the answer for you, but alas I do not. I'm sorry you are in this compromising situation right now.

 

[Casey_03]

So i demanded that they do it outside. They said they would, but then did it in the house anyway and lied to my face, claiming they'd smoke outside when I could very clearly see and feel the smoke in the house. Now this is even worse, because that means they will lie to me and try to hide shit from me in the house, and I can't feel safe here around my own family

 

[anonymous]

I feel for what you are going through... From single mom to single mom.

Idiot neighbor upstairs is a total pot head and sells it too.

It stinks. It comes into my apartment and the place wreaks. I've spent countless dollars on air freshener and have now resorted to opening up the windows ALL the way in the hall...in the middle of winter.

I don't care how cold it gets...it helps keep the stench out.

I don't want that crap around my kid. Calling the cops is useless...they dfont do anything.

So, I feel your frustration and can understand fully why you don't want that crap around your baby

 

[SeptemViginti]

If you aren't exposed to the smoke directly there is no second hand danger to you or your child. This was the first article I read and it seemed to articulate things well:


Whatever your personal opinions on marijuana are, your concerns seem to be worse than the risk posed. Long term effects of directly smoking while pregnant are not extensive enough to say that you have nothing to worry about, though I want to say that you have nothing to worry about.

Like a glass of wine to calm yourself, the same effects of marijuana would be seen as healthier than not in some cases.

Beside that point, causing yourself stress and body stress in reaction to this, from my perspective, is far worse than alternatives:

Go for a walk when they actively smoke. Ask them to give you a time frame. Work with them instead of aggressively against to find peace of mind. Frame it as peace of mind.

Go to a cafe?
Invite a friend over who would be willing to buffer the interactions so that you may feel safer?

Again, as long as you aren't in the same room as the smoke it will dissipate very fast. Marijuana smoke is not nearly as toxic as cigarette smoke.

Cigarettes, by contrast, do worse things to your body and people smoke through entire pregnancies without a single thought....

 

[SeptemViginti]

I was blocked from posting the link. It was from "what to expect" com and the first result from Google searching "is marijuana smoke bad for pregnancy".