Sufferer Ptsd After Husband's Affair

[Neverthesame]

My psychiatrist just added Abilify to my meds, and I'm worried about taking it, about what it says about my mental health.

This, this. Actually offended me. I really don't understand why this sort of attitude persists.

What is the current estimated ratio of mental illness among the population? 1:4?

Theoretically speaking, one quarter of everyone you know sufferers from some variety of mental illness, and yet you have the audacity to come onto a mental health website, claim to suffer from a lifelong, and as yet incurable disorder. Yet don't want to take a medication prescribed to you from a qualified psychiatrist, because it might make you seem crazy to people?

So what if you need medication? How does that make you look crazy? Last I checked, the recommended method for taking abilify, is with water in the morning. You don't have to climb atop your roof and perform your best coo coo clock impression while taking the pill.

Please if nothing else, take this little tidbit of advice. Whether or not you are "crazy" is debatable, however you do appear to be suffering a bout of verbal diarrhoea. In the future, please apply the same amount of restraint to your wandering assumptions as you seem to apply to others wandering eyes. While what your husband did was rude, so is what you just did.

On a kinder note, I would like to suggest that you seek out a marriage counsellor. Odds are, whatever it is that is going wrong with with your marriage, can be solved through communication from both sides of the marriage.

It is also best to go about this sooner, rather than later. As time spent ruminating on this will only serve to breed resentment.

Oh, and for the record. I do a most excellent coo coo clock impression.

You are only used to European Peaches and they are totally different to English Peaches hence your confusion.

Ahh, yes I miss those.

I don't know what they feed the peach producing animals out here. Canadian "peaches" are flat, foul smelling and just thoroughly unpleasant. We still use armed guards. Though they are tasked with keeping people from giving them back. :hungover:

 

[StellaBlue]

You are only used to European Peaches and they are totally different to English Peaches hence your confusion.

Well, having lived in the southern part of the US for a little over 6 years now (and granted, that doesn't make me a southerner), we get our peaches from Georgia...and they're big, round, furry and juicy...sounds nothing like either a European or that more rare English peach...and definitely not like a Canadian peach (probably because your peaches don't get the kind of sunny exposure ours get ;)).

 

[BlueDream]

ok,

I was cheated on by my ex. It sucked!! It was very painful, I broke down crying, felt betrayed, made my underlying trust issues come to the surface ect. It was one of the worst feelings of betrayal I have felt as an adult.

It Did Not however cause my PTSD, nor did it cause my PTSD to surface.
I almost feel like Sydney is trying to "punk" this group with an unbelievable story of how bedroom eyes caused her PTSD.....really?!?
After reading the entire thread Sydney, you really feel this way? You really don't understand how this is a slap in the face to people who have suffered Trauma!! Real Trauma!! I am going to assume you have good insurance and your T is happy cashing your checks.....

Rant over..........

 

[Saint Nik]

It sounds like your husbands affair has sparked off the Trauma and unfortunately you have linked PTSD with what he has done to you.
If you can read about C-PTSD (Complex-Post Traumatic Stress disorder) or ask your doctor about it. This is what I have, as I was exposed to a severely abusive, abnormal childhood, later to witness my abusive mother die as well as be in a near death experience! The point I am trying to make is that childhood trauma (C-PTSD) can actually have a huge affect on relationships, especially intimate ones and his affair could have sparked off PTSD in you! This doesn't mean cheating causes PTSD, it doesn't. But if trauma is already there from childhood and has never been dealth with. . .an event can spark it off, especially a stress trigger and this is my assumption that it was your husbands affair!

I am no therapist, doctor and of course I cannot possible diagnose you in any way, but it can give you something to think about and ask your own doctors or professionals and get more insight to help you and the relationship, that is if you continue your relationship.

It is worth asking about it and really dealing with your actual trauma that you have experienced in your life. Don't worry about not remembering things, they will come if they need to. No PTSD sufferer ever wants to remember things, but that is when they are plagued with flashbacks, horrific images and then relive the horror of their trauma in their present moment. My example, one second I am making a cup of tea and the kettle boiling all of a sudden sounds like the hospital monitors when I flat lined, standing there stirring my tea as the flashback hits me, I feel increasingly weak and dizzy, my brain is trying to figure out what the f*ck is wrong with me, I feel I am going to die. My partner finds me rolled up on a ball in the kitchen, covering my ears, rocking back and forth, sobbing and wailing and terrified out of my mind!
A trigger because of a kettle boiling, or the fact it was a year on that date of when the trauma began!

I have always doubted myself because I can't complete remember everything.

The more I spent in therapy, there was so much I forgot from my childhood, all the trauma's, abuse, issues. . . so don't worry you don't remember things, they will come if they need to be dealt with. But definitely seek help and support for you.

:hug:

 

[illusionist]

I heard of this sort of thing at work this week....looking to me for understanding...obviously they don't know about me....peaches, peaches and more bloody peaches!!!!

 

[anthony]

childhood trauma (C-PTSD)

You should not link childhood trauma as cPTSD, as that is incorrect. You can get cPTSD as an adult. Complex trauma is what causes cPTSD, not childhood trauma exclusively.

You can have 10 children all heavily traumatised as children, and only one has cPTSD, two have PTSD and the rest no ongoing issues.

 

[Saint Nik]

You should not link childhood trauma as cPTSD

I apologise. My doctor and clinician have told me that C-PTSD is psychological injury that results from protracted exposure to prolonged social and/or interpersonal trauma in the context of dependence, captivity or entrapment, which had happened to me in childhood! And yes, this can also happen in adulthood as well! Sorry I wasn't making myself clearly understood.

 

[John1018]

Hi,
I am not trying to be rude, but being cheated on cannot cause PTSD as it does not meet criterion A...

You are so wrong. If you ever go through infidelity perhaps you'll understand. Right now you're just being an idiot. Every marriage counselor worth their salt will tell you, discovering an affair can and will cause PTSD.

 

[anthony]

Every marriage counselor worth their salt will tell you, discovering an affair can and will cause PTSD.

Sorry John, then they're the idiot. A counsellor does not diagnose, especially if marriage counselling.

There is a difference to using the term, Post Traumatic Stress versus Post Traumatic Stress Disorder. The first states the realism, in that you are suffering stress after the fact. The second, is a very specific disorder created by catastrophic trauma.

People need to stop using the term PTSD when what they're often talking about is PTS.

 

[StarChild]

Every marriage counselor worth their salt will tell you, discovering an affair can and will cause PTSD

@john1018, I highly doubt, that an ordinary marriage counselor just even knows, what exactly PTSD is, and what are the criterions for causing it... You at least, definitely have no clue at all, and are acting like a walking offense to people with real PTSD.

Right now you're just being an "....." (term of abuse)

And right now, you've been reported for attacking a member and for your rudeness.

 

[NoWhereKnowWhere]

Yeah my dog totally got ptsd from chasing a cat. Oh and my neighbour got ptsd from watching one of those videos that look innocent enough then all of a sudden something jumps out and screams.

 

[Fadeaway]

Man, to think all this time that is was the CSA, Attempt on my life, suicide, being beaten my my ex to try and kill my unborn child and then the 16 hours I spent thinks she was dead just a mere couple of weeks after my mom committed suicide, and while in the hospital finding out I was being accused of causing my ex's best friends death for not letting him crash at our place so he drove off the road when he fell asleep at the wheel. The abuse that came after that..the rape as punishment..

I was wrong to think all that cause my PTSD and that it was actually when my ex cheated on me that caused the PTSD. Silly me, I feel so embarrassed now talking about my other issues as if they meant something. I should have been putting the fact that I was cheated on, on my proverbial PTSD pedestal.

Not trying to minimize the pain from being cheated on, but when anyone claims that being cheated on can cause PTSD you minimize what people with actual PTSD went through.