Medical PTSD from Mistreatment in Hospital During Birth

[ilexvert]

Mmm no…. I am reading you have had a traumatic experience. Absolutely. For that I am so very sorry.
but I am also reading the “no one’s” (Or as Anthony said the all or nothing statements)


If it was fact then I would have been forced to have 2 c-sections of my own, but was not, as I provided my own examples showing it is not fact.

If it was fact I would have been forced to have the intern touching me, but I was supported and I provided that example.

So, unfortunately, I would have say you are the one reading what you want to read and, with your current thinking, if it doesn’t fit in with your current mindset then that individual doesn’t understand nor know what they are talking about. However, I can’t agree with your statement of “fact” when it isn’t.

What is fact is I hope my more positive experiences will help alleviate some of concerns for the future.



Regarding legality I was thinking of so many things/people can’t get that resolution. To whom it may not even be a gray area but not a matter with any recourse whatsoever. I hope it is something you can work through that and it gives you some of the peace you desire.

Had they gone against your wishes you'd be in the spot I am in now. Not all are so bold.

I am not saying they are all going to harm you. I am saying if you are harmed it is worse than an uphill battle when it absolutely shouldn't be. Or at least no reasonable person goes into it thinking this could possibly happen.

What do I have but their lies in my chart vs my husband who sat there doing nothing and my testimony?

If you knew they could steal your ability to have kids and you could do a thing about it, like they did mine, you'd never go. That's it for me. I'm done. It's all I ever wanted or cared about and they took that away from me. The one I have? I feel nothing. I didn't even want to see him. I have to pretend to act like a good mom, I feel nothing for him. They stole that from me.

If you knew they could do that to you, you would never trust the medical system with birth.

f*ck all of you I'm out.

 

[Rose White]

Good luck, good bye

 

[anthony]

You talked about going back to your original post, so that is what I'm doing.

I read in my notes they put a probe in my uterus when my baby was failing (hours before they told me she had issues) because of the pitocin I didn't know I was on

Pitocin is a synthetic version of a hormone called oxytocin. During the end of pregnancy, the release of oxytocin stimulates the muscles of the uterus. This causes contractions to begin and gets the process of labor going.

The side effects include increased risk for C-Section. But why were you given it? Likely because your contractions were weak and not advancing?

patient consented to IUPC placement

A uterus monitor for contractions. Can be good and in limited cases, bad.

I was forced to consent to a surgery I didn't believe I needed or wanted because they had me on drugs against my knowledge

What drugs? If you are talking about the Pitocin, that does not affect capacity for decisions.

It's either I pretend it didn't happen or I'm a nutcase who can't avoid hurting themselves. I jus don't know how to cope...

Pretending something traumatic didn't happen isn't helpful. Nutcase... sure, aren't we all to some degree? Being human makes us all uniquely complicated as f*ck.

I wonder how much of your mentioning prior rape, has to do with this specific event? Not saying it wasn't traumatic for you, just pointing out the obvious focus you have on this event and litigation vs prior effect due to previous rape. I think its a stretch to call a doctor placing a monitor within your vagina during birth, rape. If the doctor was playing around down there, or inside you, f*ck yes... but doing their job and inserting a monitor to help them understand stats. No.

You do need to calm down though. Read. Let things settle. Respond accordingly. But seriously, the anger is not helping you, and it will piss me off and lead me towards you're trolling the community.

 

[somerandomguy]

right to bodily autonomy

If you live in the United States, and I think you do, surely you must be aware that pregnant women have no such thing in most states.

 

[Rose White]

damn truth teller over here! ➡ @somerandomguy go ahead now!

 

[Movingforward10]

I haven't given birth. So I don't know the experience. I also haven't experienced horrific bodily damage due to a medical procedure.

But I do know the experience of having things inserted in me in a medical situation and it feeling like being raped.

And I do know the experience of saying no or saying that something is painful and the person giving a service to me ignoring that and carrying on. (And that triggering feelings from being raped).

I do know the anger about the lack of justice when your body has been violated. The lack of autonomy. The lack of care from those people and society in general. And the inability for there to be any recourse or consequence on those who harmed me.

And I know that the path to healing is within. It's me.

I wonder what you want from this post? What is your goal?
What will help you move forward and accept what happened to you happened (it shouldn't of , of course, none of us are here because of things that should have happened to us and most of us are here because of something someone or people or systems decided to do to us).

 

[Weemie]

There are huge systemic issues at play, here. Not all people will have trauma as a result of it or have experiences like this, but it's widely known, with data to back it up, that women are more likely to be mistreated by doctors and subjected to medical malpractice, not listened to, not taken seriously, etc. Obstetric violence occurs in at least 20% of cases according to the CDC (CDC Newsroom). It happens and it's very common.