Sufferer Ptsd/post abortion syndrome

[Justmehere]

There are many other treatments out there other than medications, although that might help in addition to other treatments.

What strikes me though is that you are resisting them all. Sure, you might cry, but you’d have support to work the emotions through... that’s what therapy is all about. You’ve tried to go it alone, and you know that’s not working out and you are miserable and struggling to function.

Are you still with your abuser? (Sorry if I missed the part where you left them.) Have you considered going to your local domestic violence crisis center and seeing if they have support groups for that part of what you have been through, and reporting his abuse?

What’s holding you back from getting greater help? You can find relief and support from the pain you are experiencing.

 

[Yzabella Marie]

There are many other treatments out there other than medications, although that might help in additi...

No I am not with the abuser . We had separated and I started going to my therapist a couple months after and I stopped . It’s been almost 2-3 years of me trying to go at it alone . I met someone new , he’s just amazing , and a true blessing . I told him the truth from the start and he’s been my rock ever since . I just don’t know what to tell him that will help him to help me through my rough days . And I guess what’s holding me back is being afraid that someone is going to make me go through all of those emotions that I’m not ready to process yet , because every time I think about it and the emotions come over me , it’s just so hard to handle . If I could personify my emotions , I would call it a truck . Everytime they come over me it’s like getting hit by a truck and it backing up over me and hitting me again .

 

[EveHarrington]

Trauma therapy starts with teaching you coping skills so that you can handle processing the trauma.

My guess is that your misperceptions of trauma therapy are what’s scaring you away.

 

[Yzabella Marie]

Trauma therapy starts with teaching you coping skills so that you can handle processing the traum...

I guess because I’ve never had a therapist who specialized in trauma . Our college therapist was just a regular therapist and I guess he was probably just used to a lot of people coming in with stress from school and he was trying to help me but I felt like he didn’t have enough of that training to do so . That’s why I have to look into a therapist who specializes in that I guess

 

[ladee]

Everyone of us here have a 'truck'... and not one of us want to feel what needs to be felt to heal. resistance is futile... and seeing you say you need to find a trauma therapist is a very good thing...wish you success... just need you to know, that we all do understand, but we just put one foot in front of the other... that's what we are all doing... so , hope you join us on the healing journey, and stop resisting what is happening anyway, the way you are approaching it, there is no way out... only around and around.... you can let us be present for you, or you can resist until the pain takes you to such a level that you have no choice... you still have a choice.. hope you do find a trauma T and get on with your journey... gentle hugs if you accept.

 

[Yzabella Marie]

Everyone of us here have a 'truck'... and not one of us want to feel what needs to be felt to heal. resis...

Thank you. That’s good advice. And I am currently trying to seek a good trauma T that i can afford .

 

[Teasel]

In the mean time you might find tge DBT skills work book useful. I have, and have found it enables me to cope with the 'truck'
It' taught me skills that help me cope, maybe look into it :-)

 

[Deleted member 8714]

Is there anyone else that has been diagnosed with ptsd/pas like me ? Or understands someone who does ?

I have PTSD and some of it was caused by sexual assault which resulted in an abortion I had at age 10. So I can relate in some way.

Finding a trauma specialist has helped me considerably. One T, who wasn't a trauma specialist, harmed me more than all the others one, believing that I should hurry up and get over my loss and move on. Some Ts shouldn't be Ts.

if I write my story I would prefer to do it anonymously.

You can share your story under Trauma Diaries for members. It's not searchable through the internet. I've felt free enough to share all kinds of horrible things there. Great place to give and receive support.

I just don’t know what to tell him that will help him to help me through my rough days.

You might try reading through the supporters portion of the forum and see what others have gone through.

What I've found though is that my husband can't do anything to change my PTSD. Once he figured this out he stopped feeling helpless. A trauma specialist would more than likely have your partner attend sessions with you at times. There are things supporters can learn to keep stress at minimum in the relationship and around the living quarters.

You might want to read about the stress cup on this forum. That would also be a good read for your new partner.

 

[Yzabella Marie]

In the mean time you might find tge DBT skills work book useful. I have, and have found it enables me...

What is a DBT workbook?

 

[Teasel]

Look it up on amazon or other bookshop