Quote Of The Day

[DharmaGirl]

t will eventually poison everything that you are
And destroy you.

I was just trying to tell my mom this. She holds on to her hatreds and whips them out and feels like they just happened every time.

 

[Lionheart]

"We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them." ~Albert Einstein~

 

[user27357]

"We cannot solve our problems with the same thinking we used when we created them." ~Albert Einstein~

Thats very, very good. So many of my problems are based on the thinking of an angry teenager or scared spitless trauma victim or again an angry EMT. The trick, it seems, is realizing that these memories have value and are a part of me, they just need to be better applied to the here and now- solution based thinking versus survival based thinking.
thanks for that, @Lionheart777

 

[user27357]

@Lionheart777 I keep coming back to this. You have contributed to my healing, thanks. Einstein was no psychologist, he was probably speaking to the plight of man before and after harnessing the power of atomic fission, but it is a truism. Problem negation is the mindset that is required to keep from having to fall back into problem solving over and over, as much for international diplomacy as it is for internal thought processes regarding our individual personal struggles.

example:
I often find myself proclaiming that I am trying to solve problems when those around me are not even aware of the problem or worse yet- telling me I am over reacting to a problem. When I see a bad driver I will get angry, remind myself that distance equals safety, and pull over and check my emails for a minute. This exaspirates my wife who didn't see the problem or didn't think it was that bad. not bad enough to take time from our day. If she says so, I go into "problem solving" mode and we might get into an argument in which" I am just trying to solve a problem". The survival mode thinking is in full swing.

Actually solving the problem involves chasing the bad driver down and acquiring their keys and storing them in a place where insertion is painfull and extraction may require preperatory dietary changes.

The REAL problem is that I WANT to solve the problem but am required by law to be passive and as long as I am in survival mode I will take on any and all problems that arise with fierce tenacity, proclaiming that "I am just trying to solve a problem". My wifes lack of concern becomes the problem. Wheres a cop when you need one becomes the problem. The bad drivers maternal lineage and upbringing becomes the problem.

If I can stay in a different frame of mind, using "bad driver-be aware but not angry, be cautious and alert, pull over if anger sets in and let it pass before you say or do anything else" thinking, the SOLVEABLE problem (my anger) is avoided and maybe someday resolved.

there are so many other places that this quote works. Avoidance/acceptance. Defensive/receptive. Indulgence/moderation or maybe better said as seeking/content. I keep seeing more as I apply this truism to my mindsets and questioning their validity.

thats what i get from Albert here.

 

[Lionheart]

Actually solving the problem involves chasing the bad driver down and acquiring their keys and storing them in a place where insertion is painfull and extraction may require preperatory dietary changes.

I'm sorry but I thought that this was funny. I love your sense of humor and like that you got a lot from Alberts quote.

 

[user27357]

If I had no sense of humor, I would long ago have committed suicide.
Mahatma Ghandi

 

[Tornadic Thoughts]

"I'm not insane - I'm voluntarily indifferent to conventional reality." ~Jared Leto

 

[Tornadic Thoughts]

"Dear outsiders, even the most beautiful of wildflowers are considered weeds in the wrong gardens - what another thinks of you does not dictate your value." ~Beau Taplin

 

[Lionheart]

“Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe.” ~Albert Einstein~

 

[DharmaGirl]

“It's a dangerous business, Frodo, going out your door. You step onto the road, and if you don't keep your feet, there's no knowing where you might be swept off to.”
― J.R.R. Tolkien, The Lord of the Rings

 

[Lionheart]

"The hurrier I go, the behinder I get." ~Lewis Carroll~

 

[The Albatross]

“You owe yourself everything you expect from others” ~ Nicky Verd