Really Enraged Right Now

[Casey_03]

So to hell with the student loan

I wish, but my dad co-signed and they have threatened to seize his home. Otherwise I wouldn't be worried about paying. They're private loans, so there is no option to get a deferment or forbearance.

And finding another job is also a priority -- I've been applying to several jobs a week for the past couple months. But I can only do work-from-home jobs, and none of the places I've applied to have gotten back to me at all. I can't go do cleaning jobs or anything like that -- who will watch the baby? Daycare is about 200 a week, which I don't have. That's another reason I was counting on the money from when the house sells - cause then I could get daycare and go get a full-time, 9-5 job.

Honestly, my decision to move back to the States was the wrong decision. I jumped the gun. In Ukraine, I was fully independent and able to pay for everything on my own. I had two jobs and was living comfortably. But I had to quit one of those jobs to move back, and that was a huge HUGE mistake. I came back for family, but as it turns out, that was the wrong thing to do.

Ugh. I just want to get as far away from here as possible, as quickly as I can. At least now I can recognize that it was a big mistake to come back. Maybe I can still get my old job back in Ukraine.

 

[ladee]

Oh, ok, I see about the student loans...but please keep in mind, that going back overseas, if you chose the same place, you have the issue of your ex..... there are other places to live in the states.....

I hate money Casey, and all the issues from 'lack of' can cause... I stay stressed from 'lack of' , so I truly do understand the situation you are in....sorry the family is a circus act that isn't funny.... but you do have legal recourse to not be thrown in the streets or having to live in the ghetto... I am sorry it seems nothing is falling into place for you... I hope you keep in mind you are doing an amazing job keeping from going to jail behind anyone....

You are going to catch a break.... you are... didn't mean to imply you weren't tending to business.. it's just that we don't get updates after a post, so just didn't know... you know I care about you and LM.... wish I was rich then neither one of us would be in the situation we are in.... All I can offer is support... but glad you posted.. I am praying for you and LM... to find some peace.

 

[Casey_03]

I found one apartment for 550 and am debating whether or not it's worth renting. Problem is it's on the second floor and the only way to enter is to go up some very shoddy wooden stairs that have no railings or safety bars. I worry that once Little Man is able to open doors (and he's already trying to) he will be able to open the front door and fall out, plunging from the 2nd story. There's just a tiny ledge, no outer screen door and a really crappy, easy-to-open lock. Also, there are no doors inside the apartment, so if things are hectic and I am rushing around doing something, there's no room to keep Little Man securely tucked away in so he can't crawl out the door. (Safety gates will only be effective until he's a certain age, and then I suspect he'll be able to climb over them.) I don't know if it's worth taking a risk with that apartment, because it really just seems like an accident waiting to happen. But that's the only place I might be able to afford.

 

[Deleted member 541]

Stairs with no railing is a health board violation. If I were you, I would look at the place really really well. Look at light fixtures, outlets, check the water, look for smoke detectors, and CO2 monitors, lights on the outside of the building where you would enter, rust in tub or shower. Most of these things are violations if they aren't present or if they are.

You could always speak to the landlord and ask that a railing be put up. A new lock isn't that hard to install, I change my own when needed.

It's tough when your options are limited, but not impossible...

 

[Casey_03]

Yeah, I talked to the landlord and asked if he could at least put an extra lock on the door, a chain one, so the baby wouldn't have a chance of being able to open the door on his own. He said he would and was understanding. So I submitted the rental application and now just have to wait and hope to hear back ...

 

[ladee]

Good for you Casey.... action.... now hopefully this works out.... and you can get away from that toxic crap that you have to be around in some form every day.... when you get your money from the sale of the house.... then you will feel more confident... Hope and prayers that things start to look up for you.... a great new adventure for you and LM....

You do perservere Casey... no matter what has been thrown at you... you figure it out... and being a great mom on top of it all.... you are doing great... proud of you !!