Really struggling want to die.

[FauxLiz]

So my ex texted me again today and I started to meltdown. Then I realized that I can't keep this up. I didn't even read the text I just deleted it and then I blocked him. I don't know why he is all of a sudden contacting me but I don't have anything to say to him.

 

[Justmehere]

I'm so glad you blocked him. Is it helping to finally have some space from him?

 

[FauxLiz]

Well now he is doing something I thought even was too low for him he is sending texts to our son asking him to forward them to me so putting son in the middle.

You he is the only person I have ever wished was just gone from this earth not even my rapists/abusers/molester.

 

[Deleted member 541]

I would save all of these text. Useful should you ever have to go back to court. Explain to your son that you placed a block on him and if your son wants to pass the text he can. I’m assuming he’s old enough? Your ex is a real jerk!!,

 

[Justmehere]

Triangulation and boundary busting... using a minor! Ugh! This guy is awful. :( :hug:

 

[FauxLiz]

Our son is just a few months short of 18 so he is old enough to decide about passing things on to me it is just the fact that he is doing it at all. So many days I wish I had someone in my life when I met him that would have sat me down about what a bad decision I was making. I wouldn't trade my kids for the world but looking back at the red flags from the minute I met him I wish I could have seen them and saved so many people from my mistakes.

 

[Justmehere]

You also get to decide if you will set the boundary with your son to not pass on things from others to you. It is actually a really good life skill to learn how to not be triangulated. This doesn't mean cutting ties with your son and it doesn't mean you have to even get into why you don't want the messages to him. You could tell your son you don't accept messages from third parties like this as a rule. Please don't continue to send them.

I'm so sorry you are going through this. :hug:

 

[Freida]

What @She Cat said!!! Gotta hold out for that happy dance!