Sexual Assault Right after. did you tell anyone?

[8888]

I was a small child when it happened so I didn't understand what was happening. My abuser said he'd hurt my mother if I told anyone and I was afraid he would so I kept quiet for years.

 

[foxeevee]

I started confiding in a few people I thought I could trust and it was amazing how my world view on others flipped upside down. People I thought were compassionate were not so and it made me actually hate people for a very long time.. Until I met my loving boyfriend who helped me rebuild my life and went through EXTENSIVE therapy. These days I tell nobody though. There were so many bad times confiding, like a guy that told me "I was very lucky to just have experienced rape because at least I could "move on with my life" instead of his girlfriend cheating on him and messing with his business" he word for word told me that "being cheated on is worse" and compared the situations. I relive this moment at least once a week and it has been well over a year and I go into a blind rage.

 

[Deleted member 487]

I didn't. The ER social worker did. They ignored him and the ER doctor.

 

[Miss_Basilisk]

Sort of. My friend knew I was with him and I had messaged her after it happened to ask if she could meet me for a while because I was upset and didn't know how to explain what happened. I did meet her and I basically tried to act like it wasn't a big deal. I left a lot of the things that happened that night out of what I told her (voluntarily and involuntarily, I didn't remember much of what happened and I was pretty out of it at that point) and acted like everything was okay. I think that might be why i get the feeling that she thinks I'm overreacting when I'm having flashbacks or whatever. Cause she doesn't know fully what happened. Or maybe I'm just paranoid.

 

[Effie]

I had witnesses. A friend had a place in the country. As a group of teens, we went to stay at her place and have a small party, her parents were there. After lights out, some of us snuck out to an old garage for some underage drinking. It was her 18 year old cousin, 2 guy friends, 14 and 15 years old and me. I made out with her cousin at some point during the night. There was an old car on bricks and musty chairs in the garage. I fell asleep in the car. I woke up to him arguing with one of my guy friends and then he punched my friend in the back of the head. I was extremely drunk and tried to yell at him but my mouth was too numb. He came over and started kissing me, but I was still pretty upset he punched my friend. He got pushier and well, it went how it went. At the end, I don't know what I was thinking but I stabbed him in the shoulder with a fountain pen and sat and cried like a dumb little kid. My friends were scared of him by that point. I don't know what he did to them, but I saw bruises later. My friends weren't big guys and he probably weighed twice what one of them weighed and they were as drunk as I was. He didn't say anything, but helped me get dressed like I was a young kid.

We went back to the house and he started yelling that I'd lost my mind and stabbed him. I wasn't ready for that. My friend (his cousin) was pissed off with me. My friends who saw it, confirmed that I had stabbed him. They stayed in contact with me but we didn't talk about that night. They'd ask how I was doing and if I needed anything. One of them told me if I wanted to go to the cops, he'd go with me.

It's kind of f*cked up, but having witnesses was a comfort and a source of trauma. I could see it in their eyes when they looked at me that they knew what I knew. The way he acted, I could think I was overreacting or imagined it. But their personalities changed too. I wonder if it was part of why one of them became a cop and the other joined the military. I was angry with them that they didn't help me when it was happening instead of offering help afterward. I wanted one of them to go to the house and get help or speak up for me when he called me a pyscho who stabbed him. Probably not fair of me. When he punched my friend, I didn't stop him either.

 

[Deleted member 37474]

I had witnesses. A friend had a place in the country. As a group of teens, we went to stay at her place a...

That is horrible. You did the best you could in a situation no one should ever go through.

 

[Effie]

That is horrible. You did the best you could in a situation no one should ever go through.

Thanks. I tried getting into what he actually did, but it never seems appropriate. It wasn't okay to happen, so when would it ever be okay to talk about? I think this is part of why it takes so long to tell anyone. It's never okay to talk about.

 

[hithere]

No I did not.

 

[Deleted member 45588]

I couldn't speak up about it for 2 years, and when I did it caused lots of hassle and I was dismissed help by many people including people I thought I could trust and I was even put in an institution for three months and deemed to be 'psychotic' with little evidence or assessment other than the fact I made an allegation.

 

[joeylittle]

I was even put in an institution for three months and deemed to be 'psychotic' with little evidence or assessment other than the fact I made an allegation.

Do you mind if I ask, what were you doing that could have given them a reason to put you inpatient for 3 months? (Not that you were psychotic, I'm just wondering what set of circumstances led to your hospitalization)

 

[Gs172003]

I was married to mine so no.

 

[Deleted member 45588]

Do you mind if I ask, what were you doing that could have given them a reason to put you inpatient f...

I tried to post all over social media to my peers that a certain teacher sexually assaulted me, but I also got in for being angry. There were meetings every week and the wrote claims I was ''delusional'' and ''hallucinating'' and they talked a lot about the anger I guess. No other symptoms were mentioned of psychosis other than the vague ''delusional'' and ''hallucinating'' several times and ''flattened affect'' once. I hope I don't come across as an ahole now.