It sounds like your parents and family are exemplifying sociopathic tendencies. This is very serious and can take a long time to realize and put together. Putting it all together can mean clarity and a short lived sense of relief. Scapegoating is what I first deemed had been happening to me all these years but it goes beyond that with malicious slander, theft, and downright brutal assassination of character. Mine took it to the point of meddling with my treatment to the extent of contacting my doctors without my knowledge. My doctor was not on the same page and was questioning everything I said. I had no idea this was going on and thats just a tiny example. When you are in the middle of their scemes its impossible to figure out. This may be an extreme take on your post but the being angry of your expressions really clues me in. Thank you for sharing, you are already on the right track.