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anthony
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cdunny said:
CD, you took out of my post exactly what I thought you would, only what you want to listen too. As I clearly outlined within that post, I am not attacking you, nor am I telling you anything, nor am I dictating what is right or wrong for you to do. What I can do though is call a spade a spade, and when someone writes here that they are going to lie, be deceitful, not disclose information intentionally to seek employment, then damn straight I will say that is lieing, deceitful and of little character.
I am definately not saying to anybody here that PTSD should hold them down, hell... I am trying to get people to see the opposite and go forward in their lives compared to now, but never have I said on this board, or condoned, to lie in order to do that, cheat, steal or be deceiptful, in fact the only thing I do mention on here is to be honest with yourself, and to be honest, I don't see you doing that with yourself. I see you trying to swap one bad situation for an even worse one.
Never have I said on this forum that a person with PTSD cannot work, and never will. What I have said though from seeing it, and doing it once myself, is that PTSD does not go with high stress jobs... every single person who has attempted it that I know off has come down harder, including myself, and recover will never be the same as it could have been. Stop reading what you want to read please, and read the entire posts, not see one thing that creates some anger in you to retaliate, or feel your being attacked, because its not the case.
Lets look at the facts shall we. Your at home, and your stressed from home duties and looking after your child. You seem to think that getting employment in a high stress job is somehow going to make you better and cope more efficiently! You obviously see something that I don't!
cdunny said:
CD, I am not trying to bring you down to any level, I personally think your already down enough... I am only trying to get you moving forward in positive directions, not high stress, high risk work with PTSD. As I have said in the last post, its your decision and your life, and only you know what is best for you, nobody else. We can only try to learn failure. I am not going to sit here and tell you if you fail, "told you so" or any other shit, I will still be here to help you go in a positive direction, but hopefully by then you will realise your mistakes, and want to move more positively, instead of moving in negative emotional and mental directions.
cdunny said:
And here is the problem. See, I can already see that your rape isn't going to affect your ability to perform, because your coping just fine in a lower stress environment at home looking after your child. Kind of wonder why you need support for your PTSD if your coping??? You see CD, your rape has nothing to do with anything now. You can heal all you want, but PTSD itself is unique, it is with you waiting to jump you when your stress levels are increased... and it will, and it will win because you will be within an environment that DOES NOT allow you the time, space or freedom to control your PTSD symptoms.
Again, it really doesn't bother me CD, because it is your decision, and only you know what is right for you. If you fail, then hopefully you will learn a lesson in that failure. If you succeed and you do truly cope with a high stress role with your PTSD, then hell... I give you all the best I can give for succeeding where 99.99% have failed. I don't know, you could be that 0.01% that can manage a high stress role with PTSD.
Though CD, don't ever confuse me supporting someone individually, as opposed to support lieing, deceit or other uncharacteristic values that I do not agree with. People think its ok too tell one lie here, then another somewhere else, then another elsewhere, and so the list continues on until they end up struggling to know what is reality vs. fantasy. Your entitled to your opinion, and I am mine, live with it. You are not right, nor am I right, it is our individual opinions that we feel are right. If you feel that when being asked the question, "Do you or family members suffer mental illness?", and you answer, "NO", and if you don't think that is uncharacteristic, deceiptful and blatant lieing, then that is your opinion. My opinion is that it is deceiptful, lieing and uncharacteristic.
