Sex: How Willing Should A Therapist Be To Talk About It?

[Emov]

Besides, it's a discussion, not simply an "am I right or am I wrong?" Everyone has a unique opinion about it, and I want to hear them. If they had a particular experience with a therapist, I want to hear about it.

 

[Ugera]

Actually you seem quite argumentative to me and adverse to any opinions that challenge your beliefs. It doesn't seem like you actually want other opinions as you shoot them all down.

 

[Viden]

I agree. This has not been a discussion, it's been you, the OP, reiterating the same beliefs, challenging and even insulting at times those who disagree or offer different points of view.
It's been an interesting thread as everyone has such a different view on this so I thank you for starting it.
But I agree with Ugera, I wouldn't call it a "discussion "!!

 

[Emov]

I wouldn't call it a "discussion "!!

I happen to have a forceful communication style. It's not meant to disrespect other people. If you have a point, you're welcome to argue it in any manner you like.

 

[Boluk]

One therapist I had wanted to know too much, she asked me if I'd ever had intercourse with a male. Also asked me if my same sex lovers were satisfying..

 

[Emov]

One therapist I had wanted to know too much, she asked me if I'd ever had intercourse with a male. Also asked me if my same sex lovers were satisfying.

And all you had to do was tell her those topics were too personal and you'd rather not talk about them. So you had the option to discuss it or not. It's not having the option that's unacceptable.

 

[Eno]

Mm. She was quite pushy to know.

If you're in the uk it's possible you could see her.

 

[Ruwim]

I happen to have a forceful communication style. It's not meant to disrespect other people. If you have a point, you're w...

And now you're excusing away your communication style. I don't think you actually wanted help at all. I wish I knew who you are so I don't bother to reply to you on the main forum.

 

[Emov]

I wish I knew who you are so I don't bother to reply to you on the main forum.

I have gladly stood corrected by other members in other threads.

Advice I would have accepted and agreed with in this thread:

"Unfortunately, this profession lacks across-the-board standards. You never know, so it's best to ask at the outset if a therapist is okay with sex talk."

"You could have continued to bring the conversation back to sex over and over until she was forced to come clean and admit she couldn't talk about it, if indeed that was the case."

But continuing to suggest that I'm "mind reading" after I explained her pattern of avoidance six times? Sorry, no.

 

[Vufuwu]

People have spoken about shifting standards and have suggested you keep talking about it and naming what you see in her response/body language every time she seems uncomfortable. Your response was to ask why you'd bother putting yourself through that. It seems like you don't want to work on your relationship with her and actually address the things your unhappy with.

You've shown yourself unwilling to accept anything other than your viewpoint over and over again on this thread. I don't see any evidence of you jerking an open mind here. Not that you need to, venting is a valid use of this space but just acknowledge that's what you're doing.

 

[Emov]

Warning: Vent.

I HATE her.

 

[Kufib]

Advice I would have accepted and agreed with in this thread:

"Unfortunately, this profession lacks across-the-board standards. You never know, so it's best to ask at the outset if a therapist is okay with sex talk."

"You could have continued to bring the conversation back to sex over and over until she was forced to come clean and admit she couldn't talk about it, if indeed that was the case."

Both of those things have been stated, more than once.