Sex: How Willing Should A Therapist Be To Talk About It?

[Uce]

Yes, Ukah, I noticed that - well, unkind to the people who don't agree or offer different viewpoints.

 

[Lovuk]

Also emov, are you seeking empathy?

 

[Emov]

Also emov, are you seeking empathy?

I honestly just wanted to hear other people's experiences. I don't recall yelling at anyone for simply sharing their experience. If happen to believe if a therapist can't talk about sex with their clients, they're a shit therapist, and I'm going to stand by it if anybody says otherwise.

If empathy is on offer, of course I'll take it.

 

[Kadaf]

I think a lot of therapists would have a problem with what you said you wanted to talk about. I am not sure why you would feel like you need to talk about masturbation to her. I mean, what is she supposed to say?

 

[Emov]

I am not sure why you would feel like you need to talk about masturbation to her. I mean, what is she supposed to say?

I'm talking about the psychological and emotional experiences I have while masturbating, not simply masturbating. She's supposed to go into the feelings of shame and worthlessness that I feel while I'm in any kind of sexual situation, masturbation or otherwise. I just don't subscribe to the idea that sex is somehow separate from other life issues that come up in therapy. Sex is a huge part of life, intrinsically tied to many other aspects of ourselves and our experience, and any therapist who cordons off sex as something unspeakable might as well strike off self esteem. relationships, body image, parental relationships, and a bunch of other topics from the list.

 

[Teviho]

I think this is a case of "why won't my cardiologist talk to me about my infertility issues! Doesn't he know that having children is an essential part of life?!?"

Point being, make sure the professional you choose is skilled at addressing the issues you have!

 

[Emov]

I think this is a case of "why won't my cardiologist talk to me about my infertility issues! Doesn't he know that having children is an essential part of life?!?"

No. It's a case of, "Why won't my cardiologist talk about the cholesterol and saturated fat in my diet? When I ask him whether I should try to eat a diet that will be better for my heart health, he says, 'I only deal with heart issues. You're talking about what goes into your stomach now, and you'll have to see an intestinal specialist for that.' Why can't he see that they are connected and we can't discuss one without discussing the other?"

 

[Tirer]

Well I think you need a different therapist because she's useless for you.

 

[Emov]

Well I think you need a different therapist because she's useless for you.

And it has nothing to do with me being an unreasonable patient and everything to do with her being an unreasonable therapist.

 

[Hozojaj]

Exactly

 

[Velut]

Have any therapists ever told you, "Uh-uh. I am not a sex therapist. Take this crap somewhere else?"

Nope and we talk a lot about it, sexual fantasies, my sexual behaviors, sexual punishment, sexual prowling, masturbation, and sexual everything else a ton, as it has everything to do with my trauma.

I was raised in a cult where sex and "god" and sex, was its focus. My sense of sex, what is and isnt normal, and even that it has to do with my trauma is all skewed and my therapist, whom isnt a sex therapist, back traces it all to my trauma and then helps me to learn what is normal sexual prefences and fantiasies and what isnt.

We talk a lot of sex. But that took years of trust building to be able to do.

Actually, i dont think a sex therapist would be able to help like my therapist can. So how much is too much sex talk, in my opinion, is up to you and your therapist as all therapists have different training and some arent trained for this sort of thing. But its not like i should seek out a sex therapist, i should just make sure my current therapist had adequate training for my trauma.