Sex?

[Ronin1]

So. I'm not sure if this is normal. But. I have a really hard time with the sex part (And all the other parts) of my relationship.

When have not had sex since before summer, and I don't really have an lust to do so. I can be with her all day, touching her, thinking that shes sexy, but then we go to bed, and I have NO urge to "do" her.

It's like, I can't "feel" her, when having sex, like my mind floats everywhere it should not be, like I can't focus.

She is really tired that I'm never in the mood. And so am I...

A couple of year ago when my PTSD was still manageable, I was jumping her like a horny chiwawa... :-)

 

[OldDoorGunner]

Johnny, Are you taking any med's? If you are that could be it, as most of the med's we get put on do that.

J R

 

[atilla]

Paxil caused me problems like that.

 

[Ronin1]

Nope. No meds other than Propranolol when I know I'm going to places that stress.

 

[combatgoldfish]

I feel your pain. I've been off the medication besides pain killers and alpha blockers so nearly a year now. I blame the SSRI's mainly Sexual desire is nearly at a zero for me. A few years ago, it wouldn't take much to get my mind on sex. Now, I do it and it feels like a task I have to complete. Little to no enjoyment.

 

[atilla]

Ive been off everything since 2005, couldnt handle all the side effects and feeling like a zombie.

 

[OldDoorGunner]

Well it could be your testosterone is not correct......Now most men think that T gives them wood, not true. If it was true men would not need the ED pills......We got men with a shit pot full of lust and no wood. (I'll leave it at that, it gets deep)
Testosterone does a lot things in the body, one of them would be lust...So if you got wood and no lust that's what it could be.
You may want to see an Endocrinologist, tell him whats going on......

J R

 

[SGT.Sunshine.]

Watch the propranolol made me hallucinate 24/7 bad and put me in a serious psychotic state discontinued medication and the blatant hallucinations just stopped. Also the sex thing is VERY normal, had that issue when I first got back from my last deployment for like 6 months. No interest at all.

 

[SGT.Sunshine.]

Also the off label uses for that shit should give you a real pause. It explained the hallucinations.

Ethical and legal questions have been raised surrounding the use of propranolol-based medications for use as a "memory damper", including: altering memory-recalled evidence during an investigation, modifying behavioral response to past (albeit traumatic) experiences, the regulation of these drugs, and others.[17] However, Hall and Carter have argued that many such objections are "based on wildly exaggerated and unrealistic scenarios that ignore the limited action of propranolol in affecting memory, underplay the debilitating impact that PTSD has on those who suffer from it, and fail to acknowledge the extent to which drugs like alcohol are already used for this purpose." [18]
volunteers given the beta blocker propranolol scored lower on a range of psychological tests designed to reveal any racist attitudes than a group who took a placebo.[25] The amygdala is involved in processing emotion, including fear, and many psychologists think racist feelings are driven by the fear center. Propranolol inhibits the amygdala.[26]
Due to the high penetration across the blood-brain barrier, lipophilic beta blockers such as propranolol and metoprolol are more likely than other less lipophilic beta blockers to cause sleep disturbances such as insomnia and vivid dreams and nightmares.[31]

Adverse drug reactions (ADRs) associated with propranolol therapy are similar to other lipophilic beta blockers.

 

[Sludge]

So. I'm not sure if this is normal. But. I have a really hard time with the sex part (And all the other parts) of my relationship.

When have not had sex since before summer, and I don't really have an lust to do so. I can be with her all day, touching her, thinking that shes sexy, but then we go to bed, and I have NO urge to "do" her.

It's like, I can't "feel" her, when having sex, like my mind floats everywhere it should not be, like I can't focus.

She is really tired that I'm never in the mood. And so am I...

A couple of year ago when my PTSD was still manageable, I was jumping her like a horny chiwawa... :)

Sadly temporary impotence is not only a side effect of drugs, but a side effect of stress and lack of sleep too. Meds are bad enough, but trust me when I say uncontrolled PTSD is just as bad. The annoying part is you end up walking around with a loaded gun that always seems to be jammed in the chamber, no matter how many times you clear the barrel, If you get my drift.

Good news is that it passes, bad news is that usually by the time everything works properly again they put you back on meds and the whole cycle repeats.

As cold hearted as it sounds, sometimes one just has to fake it so to speak. Kinda like the old "think about baseball" bit, but in reverse.

 

[OldDoorGunner]

Let's look at the reverse.....My wife gave birth on the 28th and turned 40 on the 30th (first child and only)......Within 4 weeks she started to go into menopause. After a year she was done with it, sex why do I need that for. :(:(:( So for over 20+ years she took care of business. So to Quote Sludge "sometimes one just has to fake it"!!!! (y)

It all comes down to loving each other......Doing the dishes, laundry or me was just part of her job. That's what she said anyway.....:rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:

J R

 

[Raven]

*chimes in several months later*

If the problem is caused by medication, Viagra or Levitra or something can usually counteract. If it's purely emotional or mental, then you just have to overcome the urge to say no. The more you have sex, the more enjoyable it becomes. The less you have sex, the less you want it. Funny how that works out.