Sexual Assault Sexual Abuse - Myths And Facts

[Lucycat]

This thread is for people to determine what is true. I'm not giving answers - I want to generate discussion.

So, for starters

Sexual abuse is a women's problem

 

[Lucycat]

If you did not resist it cannot be rape or abuse

 

[Lucycat]

You should 'just get over it'

 

[Lucycat]

Normal-appearing, well educated, middle-class people don't molest children.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Only bad people get raped or abused.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

Those who do get raped or abused deserve it.

 

[anndeb]

Men are the only ones who rape or abuse women and children.

 

[anndeb]

The victim must have 'asked for it'.

 

[anndeb]

If only she hadn't been wearing 'sexy' clothes.

 

[anndeb]

Family 'secrets' like incest will simply be passed on from generation to generation, unless they are finally faced openly and dealt with.

 

[Lucycat]

Only bad people get raped or abused.

Yes, this is such a dreadful myth. I know I believed it for me. I never thought other victims were bad, but I really thought I was. it is weird how the brain makes such rotten sense of stuff like this.

 

[jadebear]

If you did not resist it cannot be rape or abuse

This is something I have been struggling with lately.

It was just easier to go with the flow and get it over with. I didn't try to stop him and I didn't fight. Therefore, I can't help but feel I deserved it sometimes.