Sexual Assault Sexual Abuse - Myths And Facts

[Lady of Longbourn]

I think I said something like that to my T once, where he responded by asking how would I have known what my rapist reaction would have been? Like, how would I know that because I tired to get away he didn't hurt me or kill me?

It sucks...that amount of shame and guilt this stuff causes.

 

[janej32]

You cannot be raped by your spouse.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

That's a good one.

I think that's a common thing for people to think, that if you are with someone then it does not count as rape.

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

If you are raped by the same person more then once, it has to be your fault because you should have gotten away when you had the chance.

 

[Laura Leonard]

If you are raped by the same person more than once, it has to be your fault because you should have gotten away when you had the chance.

I struggle with that a lot.

Sexual abuse never involves pleasure for the victim.

 

[TSG]

I struggle with the allowing it. I was so afraid that knife would cut me even deeper or that the gun going off was really going to be the last sound I would ever hear so I stopped resisting. I was too afraid to die to keep resisting. I am so ashamed that I stopped resisting and just cried and screamed. I just didn't want to die.

 

[cherryblossom]

I did pretty much the same as you TSG, when he had a knife at my throat.

The point is you are here today. You did what you needed to do, to survive. If you had resisted, you could have been killed. Be proud of yourself for surviving ;)

 

[anndeb]

I think all of us, as survivors did exactly the right things no matter what we did or didn't do and we can be proud of that. The fact that we survived is our victory over the situation. Myself, I 'played dead' and was so terrified that I thot for awhile that I had died. It was horrible, but it was the best I could do. And it kept me alive.

 

[Ice_Fire]

Mothers 'don't do that', so it couldn't have happened

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

All parents want what is best for their children.

 

[anndeb]

Children are safe when they are with their families.

 

[Stir Ling]

If you can't remember absolutely everything, you were not abused and are most likely imagining it.