You deserve to get good solid help and support.
Being cryptic and asking others to chase down context isn’t going to help you get the support you want. I have read past threads. They do not shed light on who you are even talking about that made this comment. Who said this? Is this your wife you are talking about? Or another friend, family member, or neighbor? Come on. Be direct.
Context helps. It stinks to have to restate an issue, but sometimes re-examining the context can help, as well as learning to be a bit more direct.
People can’t help if you don’t tell them what’s up.
Making assumptions is a big place where people get into trouble in relationships. Which I actually think is a big part of the problem with this interaction. You are making a lot of dark and very possibly inaccurate assumptions.
And you are expecting people to know what you are thinking as well, when it’s not super clear but
Again, I do really understand things have been rough lately. All the more reason to be direct and avoid assuming.
Respectfully, you are trying to read this person’s mind and jumping to the worst conclusion. Nothing in this post or several months of of your previous posts mention anyone that I’d assume is someone who doesn’t want to deal with you. You may not want to deal with yourself, or life, but ya gotta avoid projecting that into others and making such assumptions. That’s the depression talking.
She isn’t you. Whoever this is, she isn’t you. She doesn’t think the same thoughts about you that you think about you. She is her own person with her own thoughts.
Most people are crappy mind readers, and most of us try anyhow - myself included. When people are really struggling and things have been rough anyhow, they can fall into this trap all the more.
You suggested going to Alaska. Were you wanting this person to say, “no, no don’t go”? What is the response you did want?
There are many positive, supportive, and encouraging reasons why someone would support someone they care about pursuing a particular job or travel. Especially if someone was down and unhappy with life as it is now.
Talk to her, whoever this is. Don’t confront. Avoid assumptions. Instead. be curious. Ask what she meant and why she said it. Don’t think her thoughts for her. Instead, try to get to know her perspective. Understand it. There is a decent chance your interpretations are not accurate.
Own the response you did want too. She can’t know unless you tell her.
