Should I Email My T?

[barefoot]

I agree with others who've posted - I think the most likely scenario is that she has forgotten.

I also know that I have had really, really strong negative reactions when my therapist hasn't done what she's said she'd do. Even when, intellectually, I know there will be a very reasonable explanation.

So, I would echo what others have said:
- yes, drop her an email with a gentle nudge about sending you the exercise.
- consider whether you want to bring this up with her next session - the impact it has on you when she doesn't follow through and do what she says she'll do.

 

[NightSky]

In my experience, I have reacted to these types of things with feelings of rejection. I would never forget to email my T if she asked me to. If she forgets to follow through with me it's just confirmation that she thinks of me for the hour I'm there and that's it. I recognize that that's where my reaction comes from, and I make myself reach out anyway and I have never regret doing so. Sometimes mine has waited because she wanted a solid chunk of time to email. And in a couple instances she has forgotten to hit "send." Once, a really important email of hers was sent to my junk folder. It's never what I fear. But those fears hurt us in the meantime. Definitely reach out. This is THE relationship where you can safely practice that.

 

[Tinyflame]

I think she probably forgot or some other non-personal reason.

I think if it's important to you, reach out, if not or it's just too hard on you emotionally, then don't, but try not to beat yourself up about it.

 

[EveHarrington]

I wouldn't jump to the conclusion that she's unreliable-----this seems harsh IMHO. She's human-----and likely just forgot. I'd email her and ask her to send you what she promised.

 

[Rumors]

I certainly would be careful turning it into a mountain from a molehill. I can understand why it would throw you off bc a therapeutic relationship is very different than a friendship.
I texted my therapist last week with a question and then immediately wished I hadnt. When I saw him this week, he thanked me for texting him with that question and told me that I was working on taking care of myself and welcomed me to let him know if I needed to talk. I about fell out. Not what I expected at all so I guess the thing that I would urge you to do most is not have a preconceived notion about why she didn't email you and what it means. If my expectation had come to fruition, my therapist would have said "it was inappropriate for you to text me...don't do it again." So you see how our minds can turn molehills into mountains. It must be something with the ptsd that makes it hard. Just email her and say "hey, know you are super busy but I think you forgot to email me those relaxation things.... See you soon! Thanks!" You likely will find that she didn't make a note and forgot.... I can't imagine that she willfully deceived you.... Hang in there!!! I feel your pain!!!

 

[sun seeker]

I have a really wonderful relationship with my therapist, and frequently feel so grateful to have found him. The one issue I have is him forgetting to do what he says he'll do. My mind plays tricks with this too and tries to make it into something it isn't, just because of my insecurity. The truth is he is just forgetful and it has nothing to do with me. I just have to learn to keep reminding him if he forgets the first time. I can relate to how easy it is to turn a molehill into a mountain though...