Should I Mention This To My Therapist?

[WillyKat]

"obviously he lives with a woman, and so can't be too clueless"

Methinks you might be surprised at some men.

 

[joeylittle]

Lol @WillyKat! That thought did cross my mind as I was typing...

But the childbirth, for sure, I know he was there :p

 

[EveHarrington]

I'd be scared, too. Then again, I pretty much think all men are disgusted by periods as I have that stupid Neanderthal joke in my head that says never trust anyone who bleeds for 7 days and doesn't die.

 

[theshadowoftheliving]

It helps me, when talking to my therapist about certain issues around my female-ness, that he's a hetero make with a wife and 2 kids. The wife part, because obviously he lives with a woman, and so can't be too clueless - and the kids part, because he was in the delivery room both times, so again...probably not clueless.

I think that this is really important.

I wouldn't worry about bringing it up. The best therapist I ever had was male and I did discuss some sensitive stuff with him. Super hard, but he was the most helpful one I've ever seen.

 

[Whyteferret]

Embarrassment is a normal thing when discussing this type of thing. That's a sad commentary on society where women are shamed to have a period.

It's massive vulnerability. You're afraid he's going to judge so you're shamed and feeling vulnerable. Totally understandable. Sometimes, we just have to jump into the pool. When I went to bootcamp, I was terrified of heights. I wasn't by the end. My DIs "helped" me best that one. Ultimately, I just had to do it- like jumping off the platform into the water.

I totally relate. There are things I just can't say right now. Rather, I could but the fear stops me.

I chose a male therapist because it felt right. A male hurt me. I never fully trusted makes again. But I'm making myself face that down with a male therapist.

It's funny. I had a rough weekend with a lot of intrusive thoughts and nightmares. He asked what about. *shurg* Just stuff. We moved on. Five minutes later I blurt out what they were about. It was rather funny in a way. It felt totally random- which is was. What helped is I didn't think about it.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

I have the same problem, every month triggers the sexual abuse I experienced, it's one reason I chose a female T because I would find it hard to tell a male.