Childhood Sibling Boy On Boy Child Rape

[Silent]

Hi
First time here. As a child 8-13, plus on and off for years after My older brother would force me to have sex and not stop physical and mental abuse supported by my mother. I can't find any place that talks about male on male sibling child abuse. 50 years later I struggle every day. Where do I find help?

 

[Mytime]

Hi Silent, sorry for your pain. I hope you join the forum and accept the support you can get here. I don't have the same experience, but I know you will meet others who will listen without judgement. Welcome to the forum :) Sending hugs if you except.

 

[Kintsugi]

Sibling incest abuse here, too, though I am female. I hope you join the forum. There are several members here who experienced sibling rape and many more who endured family violence of all kinds.

 

[erigby]

I am so glad you are reaching out.
I am so sorry this happened to you.
I too was a victim of same sex molestation (female) at 8 years old...but only twice...a friend not a family member.
I don't remember much specifics except that it really confused me about sexuality and relations etc.
Your abuse went into adolescence...that must be very painful to recall.
Having lived with the memories and pain for so long it is likely you have developed thought patterns and behaviors that were heavily influenced by the trauma of the sexual and other abuse.
A good place to start to understand, what many are beginning to refer to as C-PTSD, is a book titled Complex PTSD: From Surviving to Thriving.
That being said, we all have to be careful to not self diagnose.
Have you ever seen a Psychiatrist or Psychologist and discussed any of the things you have share here?

 

[Silent]

Sibling incest abuse here, too, though I am female. I hope you join the forum. There are several me...

Hi I'm not sure how to join I created an ID and Password. Would love a place to talk. Sorry for your pain too.

 

[Silent]

I am so glad you are reaching out.
I am so sorry this happened to you.
I too was a victim of same sex mo...

Hi Erigby,

I'm 60 years old now and after so many people saying get over it, I have no trouble talking about it. Few to almost no people give a good reaction when I bring this up. 99% say get over it or run away. So; long ago I gave up on letting talking other be. I expect nothing and know I'm right that this was wrong. I'm kind of at easy talking about it now as no one can say anything bad I haven't already heard. 50 years later I have that. But most of my symptoms remain, I'm sure you can only imagin what you miss out on hiding from life for 50 years. But thank you for your support I'm sure it's hard for most to talk about it. I'm very sorry it is hard for you.
Love

 

[Silent]

Hi Silent, sorry for your pain. I hope you join the forum and accept the support you can get here. I don...

Thank you Mytime Your support is refreshing and welcome as are the other two replies. I'm not sure how to sign up I gave my email and created a password?

 

[Silent]

Sibling incest abuse here, too, though I am female. I hope you join the forum. There are several me...

Hi Simply Simon
I didn't say hi the first time sorry. Many simulates male and female ice St abuse. All abuse is as bad as it gets when you're the victim. Sorry for your pain
Love

 

[Sunshineturtle]

Also a survivor.. so sorry.. especially since your mother was ok with it. Please seek a therapist.. emdr, brain spotting has really helped me. It is hard work but worth it. Stay strong.

 

[erigby]

Also a survivor.. so sorry.. especially since your mother was ok with it. Please seek a therapi...

What @Sunshineturtle said.
Help is out there.
It can be trial and error but there are many options.

 

[Silent]

Also a survivor.. so sorry.. especially since your mother was ok with it. Please seek a therapi...

Hi sunshineturtle,
I love seeing turtles sun bathing on tree branchs and rocks reaching out from the water. So peaceful and relaxed. Not sure what a therapist can do for me. Failed attempts of the past leave me feel they really don't get. How do you over come recommendations from people trying to find their way into your head without direction? They give the standard response as they have no original ideas. I need personalized solutions not index card responses. Thank you for writing

 

[Kintsugi]

They give the standard response as they have no original ideas. I need personalized solutions not index card responses.

This has not been my experience, though I am very aware that there are many bad Ts out there.

I had to really shop around for a T for a long time as an adult. When I finally found one who met all of my criteria, she really was an excellent match, and she's never given me a stock response, ever.

Were the Ts you've seen in the past trauma Ts, and was that really true? I've seen several professionals around here say that they deal with trauma, but the bulk of their actual clientele are devoricees and people going through situational depression. My current T does all trauma all the time, pretty much, and she is really damn good at it.

My T isn't an EMDR, DBT, or CBT therapist, exactly, although she sometimes incorporates CBT into her practice. She does something that's called--uhm--interpersonal method? Or something? But the fact of the matter is, in our sessions, I can't tell whether or not she's adhering to some sort of method or approach, because it all seems pretty organic to me, and that works well for who I am.

I hope I've somewhat been able to make you see that not all Ts suck. ;)