So Confused, How Would You Take This?

[mrsps]

So I went to my therapist appointment on Tues, about 10 mins before the end of the session my T told me she was going away on holiday and would be back after labour weekend (which would be tues 28th, so 3 weeks away) she picked up her diary but I had something I wanted to tell her before the session ended so I told her what I wanted to tell her and then it was the end of our session and the next person had just pulled up (she works from home and the room is at the front of the house so you can see others as they arrive) she said our time is up and her next person was here. So I got up and no appointment was made.
Just as I was walking out the door she said this is for you and handed me a small gift bag, I cant remember if I said what is it or whats that for but anyway she just smiled and I headed out the door.
I opened the card that was inside on my way home as I was curious as to what was inside as she has never given me anything before. The front of the card read:
Life isn't about finding yourself. Life is about creating yourself.
Inside she had written "Wishing you every happiness creating your life" wow my mind went into overdrive and was like wtf she is dropping me. To me that read good luck with your life and goodbye.
I got home showed hubby and opened the gift which was some cat affirmation cards (I love cats)
I said to hubby omg she is dropping me, he said she wouldn't do it like that. I was convinced, why else would she have written what she had. After panicking and feeling sick for an hour (and discussing it with hubby, think I may of convinced him in the end lol) I txted her
Me "Im confused by the gift and card, is that your way of telling me that was our last session"
Her "no did I say that"
Me "no, but u know how I over think everything. U said u were going away and we didn't make another appointment for wen u r back n then when I read what was written in the card. I showed hubby n he said u wouldn't drop me like that but I was convinced otherwise, sorry! I love the affirmation cards, very thoughtful of u, thank you."
Her "At the 10 mins before end I told u I would b away. your response was to tell me something you saved til then. your info used the time up so session need to end"

I did think it was weird she would drop me like that without saying anything but I just so confused, and I have to wait 3 weeks before I can discuss it with her.

So now I feel awful as her good intentions I have taken the wrong way, I would normally have been buzzing that she thought of me and gave me a small gift but I cant shake the thought that I thought she was giving up on me. I keep thinking am I going to ever hear from her again as I still don't have an appointment for when she comes back. I cant stop thinking about it and how I f*cked up, taking it the wrong way.
She knows I have issues with thinking she will "abandon me" and she knows I always over think things. Surely she must see how I took that the wrong way?

Anyway sorry for the long post, just wondering how others would have taken what was written in the card?

 

[Sammyiam]

Just take a big deep breath Mrs P, she will be their for you just tex and say That the gift was really nice sorry for getting the wrong idea, I am so pleased with the cat cards thank you so much and can you please make another appointment for me for the week you return once again thank you so much. I do that sort of thing all the time....it must be a kiwi thing :D

She sounds lovely she will understand

Sammy

 

[sun seeker]

Hi, I'm not sure how I would have taken what was written on the card but I would have had an issue with being told at the last minute that she was going away for three weeks. I had a therapist who did things like that and I never brought it up with her but I think it is unprofessional for someone working with people they know has abandonment issues not to give them more warning that they are going away.

The question about whether she is dropping you I wouldn't worry about. You asked and she said no and I would trust what she says. It sounds to me more like projection because as you say you do have abandonment issues. Like Sammyiam says, take a deep breath or several and ask for another appointment. Then find something to distract yourself. It will be okay.

 

[Sammyiam]

Yes I agree totally sun I was so worried about her thinking she didn't have an appointment I forgot to write what I wanted to say was ... My psychologist has been away four weeks and she started telling me 6 weeks before she left and arranged for a lady from the depression place to keep an eye on me and visit once a week plus told my psychiatrists nurse to visit me and ring to check in on me she is an amazing lady I am so lucky to have her. So when you look at what mine has done there is an issue there I think.

Take care Mrs P

Sammy

 

[mrsps]

Thanks @Sammyiam :)

but I would have had an issue with being told at the last minute that she was going away for three weeks

I would properly normally have freaked out at this but hubby and I are going on holiday as well, ended up being great timing as we are both away at the same time. I wouldn't have been able to have an appointment with her until the same time she is back anyway due to us being away. (she didn't know I was going to be away at the same time as her and I didn't tell her)
I don't want to txt her now as I don't know if she has already gone on holiday and would hate to interrupt her holiday with a txt.

 

[Sammyiam]

When did you last see her Mrs P can you e mail her ?

 

[digger]

I think it would be good for you to set your appointment, for when she gets back, before she goes away so it's not playing over and over in your mind that she's dropped you. Confirmation of an appointment should help a bit with that.

I'm with the others though that actually my biggest concern about this is that she left it so late to tell you she would be away.

 

[mrsps]

playing over and over in your mind

Argh, this is my problem, have had sleepless nights as I play the whole thing over and over in my mind. I cant stop thinking about all of it and trying to analyse all of it. Its driving me crazy.

Sammy I saw her Tues morning, so don't know if she has gone away yet or not. Don't have an email address for her

 

[digger]

I would work on the assumption that most people take holidays starting on a weekend and text her to ask for the appointment time. I don't think that's unreasonable.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Weird. It doesn't take 10 minutes to set up an appointment.

 

[ghotiff]

I think you should definitely send a text. Even if she is away a text for a next appointment is not something that would "interrupt" her holiday.

My proposal for a text (based on @Sammyiam )

Thank you for the gift, it was really nice, sorry for getting the wrong idea. Could you please make another appointment for me for the week you return from holidays. Thanks, and have a great holiday.

 

[scout86]

You asked how we'd take that. I'd have been confused and might have taken it like you did. In my own case, I have an appointment same day & time every week and the understanding that that's the way it will be until we discuss it and make a change. And we've talked about the whole giving up/firing a client situation a couple of times. He flat out says we'll talk about it, not to worry. I believe him, lying in this case is unlikely and more complicated than being honest.

In your case, I really like the idea of sending a text now, so things are clarified and you don't have to worry.