Relationship So confused....new relationship and even newer PTSD experience

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I have tried to encourage him thus far but believe that being more present daily may be what he needs to follow through.

Just recapping that the core of PTSD is to work through the trauma experiences as Joey mentioned. Usually its necessary to check every day and ptsd symptom management are first in place but PTSD is different in that the experiences need to be process and that is what really changes much else. Definitely some support and encouragement can help someone take action and do what they need to do to fix themselves. I hope this works out for you both. I would suggest it may be nb for you to continue therapy for yourself. If you are in a helping profession you don't want to get hooked into this relationship in a negative and that wouldnt be good for either of you.

 

[NewHope19]

Very true. That's another thing I initially struggled with when I started working in this field (what seems like eons ago). I can't and will not be able to save everyone. As of a few weeks ago I've even put alerts in my phone to remind myself of that. Kinda crazy but now more than ever I know I have to do whatever it takes to make sure I'm ok. I'm definitely continuing my own therapy and self care. Even if I get a little silence over the next couple weeks from him, I'm becoming much better prepared now than I was prior to. Surprisingly we were able to have some very truthful and realistic dialogue and I do believe that being here for him this weekend restored a tiny bit of hope in him that he does have someone rooting for him which is always a good thing when life happens. Thank you for your input. I appreciate your advice, it helps me feel even more confident in the strides I'm making for myself that I'm hoping and praying to spread to others wherever I go.