General So What Are You Going To Do About It ???

[amethist]

That is the question my husband is going to be asked from now on when he has an issue with his PTSD symptoms. Not me suggesting he does something, but asking what HE is going to do about it ?

The same goes for me if I have an issue. What am I going to do about it ? But every answer has to be a positive one.

Like this morning, he had taken his medication ans started grumbling about an hour later because they were making him tired again. His answer was "Now I am going outside and doing the garden. Then over the next few months I am coming off of them"

When I came home from shopping I was hot and bothered so decided that to cool down the best thing was to get a shower. I felt no stress afterwards and calm as well as cooler.

So from now on this is what we both do for each other and ourselves.

We all have the answers, we just have to reach inside and look for them. Maybe others could try it too, as this was one of the things we were both taught at the Holistic Therapy last week.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I like this and am going to be using it for me. It is very proactive. Thank you for sharing this.

 

[amethist]

This has cropped up again this morning.

Hubby has a bad stomach, but had a Physio app at 10.30 am, obviously he cannot go. ;) Would be an oops moments somewhere on route. :eek:

I asked him what HE as going to do about it. He picked up the phone called them and rearranged the app himself. No prompting from me, he just got on with it.

Then he searched the cupboards and found his stomach tablets, took them and went back to bed, as he had a rough night with it.

For once I did nothing at all, he did it all himself.

 

[piratelady]

I think this is a great and simple way to make yourself look at the problem and take action rather than dwelling in whatever is going on. I will have to try this myself :)

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I think this is a wonderful way to deal with things that pop up. Amethist I am happy that he took care of it himself, it looks like this is a brilliant idea. Good for both of you.

 

[wife of]

Been using this method too...it works.

I am also employing the word pardon..used in a startled tone when faced with accusatory comments whilst he is trying to deflect blame if things go wrong...!