General Sometimes I Wish...

[grimalkin]

Mind reading was a thing, ya know? Being able to just *know* the truth of the matter, without having to talk it out or try to negotiate through the quagmire of mental illness.

I would love to be able to inject into my husband's head that I'm not his enemy, and that there are SO MANY people out there who have benefited from treatment for their C-PTSD. He's so convinced that he's not treatable, and there is no way he can fight it.

He says "This is how I am, there is no changing it," right after saying how much he fights to not be the negative loner he thinks is the "real" him, and right after he spent a whole weekend being the fun, loving man he says he enjoys being, with nary a glimpse of the angry loner.

If we could just communicate telepathically, he could see it!

Ah, to dream. :P

 

[Glo809]

Greetings

With me, it took two near death events to happen in a very short time.

The result was, the gremlins I had locked up tight in my noggin, got loose.

Then there was the day when I was sitting on the front porch, and the Mrs came out and asked what was wrong, I told her to hide the guns, I also told her that my mind was not in that area, but I knew that I was not quite right either.

I get the feeling that all of us has to get to this point, before starting on the path of recovery.......

Hope this helps.

G

 

[TheMinsterman]

It would be useful, today me and my ExSO (for now anyway) had some good communication, but that's because she's in a better place than she was, it's very hard to cut through the fog at the height of it all.

 

[StormySea]

It is truly bizarre how it seems two (or sometimes more) completely different people can be housed in the same body, taking turns running the show. It's frustrating for sure. But, I guess when I think of it that way it can also help me to be less hurt. I can tell myself the person I know and love is not here today. It's that other guy who I can't seem to reason with. The guy that doesn't seem to like me or anyone else for that matter. I wish he would go away and let the great guy that I love come out again, this time forever. I wonder if there's anything that can be done or said to get through to the great guy when he is in remission. Even if it's just a small seed that might slowly grow until he's back.

I haven't been diagnosed with anything but I have often felt like I have different people taking turns running my body as well. The one thing that seems to work for me every time no matter how low I get is gratitude. There is always something to be thankful for. Even if it's just being a live, having a turn on this Earth. I might not feel like naming what I'm grateful for when I start, but after a short while of going through the motions, my mood begins to follow through. It always improves, sometimes just a little, and sometimes completely.

My closest friend and I are getting really good at figuring out what works for us when we are low, and keeping those things in mind when trying to help each other. Gratitude is the number one thing for both of us. Also, we know not to talk about certain things when triggered. We've also learned that sometimes the only appropriate thing to say is I'm sorry, I'm here for you, I love you, thinking of you, you'll get through this, etc. We used to get angry on each other's behalf when hearing stories of people who we felt wronged by, but we've learned that that can just make things worse. So can defending the person. It's better just to say, "I'm sorry. That must have hurt." Of course, if there's any way to bring out humor, that is an amazing way to improve the mood too. Whether a person has PTSD or not, it's helpful to ask what works best for them, and then remember to apply it when they need it.