Sudden Bursts Of Insight

[DharmaGirl]

I realized that by letting go of my trauma, I felt more in control than I did when I was holding on to it so hard. I don't mean I let go of all of it, I mean that when it becomes overwhelming I take a deep breath and let the feeling go.

I enjoy your posts too Movin On. You fit in so well here!

 

[p-no]

realized that I cut my long hair short many years ago because Men liked it long.

When I am feeling well (most of the time now), I attract men without doing anything at all (nothing I'm aware of at least). So I figured maybe I should have my hair cut short because most men (those I've met) prefer long to short hair. Didn't do it though, I like it too much. Also I've realized (big thing) that whatever I'd choose to do to make men stay away would only cut back on what makes me me and what makes me feel good. Now I'm increasingly working on improving my boundaries or setting those up that aren't there yet because I want to be able to be me the way I like myself (hair and all) and still be able to say "no" to whatever I do not want.

 

[p-no]

To answer your original question: Yes, I have had lots of those. Usually, for me, they come in waves and then it's like the great awakenings. ;) I think, for me that has to do with an open mind; when I have that, things can be seen for what they really are, and they're not twisted and turned. Only very recently have I made the experience that understanding things does not happen so much in waves anymore but more in everyday-life, just like other things happen, more on a natural average, so to speak. Everything seems to get more balanced.

It's great to have you here, Movin'On. :hug:

 

[JustBe]

Yes, When I started this thread I was very new to the forum and just so excited to finally be gaining some support and insight.

I have learned so much here and am so grateful to everyone.:)

 

[Abrasky]

Yes I've had lots of those insights, some insights are so funny too. They help to which is a bonus.

 

[Red Feather]

I had one yesterday while reading Harry Potter. It went like this. Dumbledore is telling Harry Potter why he is special because of his ability to love. And he said that even without the prophecy Harry Potter would still have the need to fight Voldemort. And then Harry Potter realized why this made all the difference. Because he wasn't fighting Voldemort because of the silly prophecy, but because he was doing it to survive, with his head held high.

Well I just realized that making this differenciation really does have a huge impact. Like the difference of doing something because somebody told you to do it, or because you need to do it. Just the trick is understanding the need. That is where I've got my weak point. Numbness does not help to understand what needs are... Harry Potter is really good at understanding needs, and right and wrong, so he makes decisions. I'm not really good at that, but I'm learning. Yeah. So that was my "aha" moment yesterday. Maybe it still needs some work though.

 

[Tanishq]

J.K.Rowling's story is great. She fought so hard and I learn so much from her. Never leave the work you love the most. It's your prayer and that can take you anywhere. I often need to remind myself this. I will do the job I love, not what others think/want me to have. Others will only support me in getting what I want.

 

[SweetPeaandSunBird]

An insight (if ideas count?) after considering the discussion on what not to say to someone with PTSD...

I know that most of the time folks say to us things that they believe to be helpful but -- because they are so uniformed (because the specifics don't reach major media outlets) -- they end up inciting such cynical rage (whether or not we express it to them). My insight/idea: print up business cards that on one side say, "I know your intentions are good but perhaps it would be helpful to inform yourself about PTSD"; then, the back side could have useful websites listed. That way, I could just hand them the card politely and walk away.

Does this count as appropriate for this thread? Not sure.

 

[JustBe]

Sure! I've considered getting cards like that about service dogs

 

[JustBe]

An insight I had today is that maybe my many years of working with children and teaching preschool were to try and keep as many children as I could safe, at least while they were with me.

Also, children don't judge and they are not fake.They are safe.

 

[SweetPeaandSunBird]

Oh, the tender ones. They remind us how to look at things in the freshness of it all. I've had several insights over the years as to why I thought it best not to have children myself. One reason I love teaching is that I'm never childless, though my students are young adults (18-22 with some non-traditional students, too.) They probably would be ill-at-ease with this, but I like to think of myself as their kooky aunt.:p

 

[Traumagirl]

I am a teacher also, so I find your insights wonderful. I didn't know that I was trying to keep as many kids safe as possible until after my PTSD really blew up. I came to that insight and felt ok loosening my protective instincts a little. I love how kids are not fake also.