General Sufferers New Clothes

[amethist]

I was wondering if any other supporter has the same issue as I have at the moment.

I understand about sticking to what they know and is comfortable, their own safety zone type thing. But what do you do when they ask for something new and then won't wear is as, they want to stick to their comfortable, yet old and scruffy clothes.

Hubby desperately needed some new casual trousers, some he could either wear them at home to relax in or go out smart yet comfy and casual.

So I bought him what he wanted, combat style in grey and sand. Plus a new light weight jumper in the same style as his green one.

He could then wear his old scruffs outside and in his shed, keeping the new ones for inside and anywhere he wanted to go away from home.

Now he is refusing to wear them, and looking like a scarecrow again, saying he likes his old stuff better.

I am not pushing him to wear the new stuff, yet. But without actually throwing them out, he is not guna budge on this one in a hurry.

Yet he was the one who said he needed them. :speechless:

 

[Srain]

My clothes...they are my identity. I have clothes that fit but after putting them on they are stiff, too tight, they don't feel right, they hurt my skin, I spend too much time thinking about them that I can't relax and my anxiety is worse.

I might suggest washing them a bit more until they a bit less "new". Just a suggestion.

Rain

***My husband, has a thing about wearing "new clothes". He thinks they are for Special Occasions only. It takes awhile for him to get to them but eventually he does. I will poke my finger through a hole in his shirt and tug, oops :rolleyes:, especially if there are 20 of them!

 

[Dee Morris]

I don't think I would pick his clothes as a battle. I know it's frustrating because he said he needed them but is there any reason why he couldn't have purchased them himself? I guess I'm confused as to why this is even an issue.

 

[amethist]

This was just a question for others that's all Dee, no battle at all. I just wondered if other supporters found that their sufferers preferred to wear old but comfy clothes, a bit like feeling safe with what they know.

After over 4 years of PTSD, we dont "Battle" over very much at all.

As for why he did not go buy them, he struggles big style at the moment with Agoraphobia, so we dont "Battle" about him not being able to go out often either.

 

[Ladyhope Somerset]

My hubby forgets he's even got other pairs of trousers. He doesn't 'recognise' his new things in the wardrobe even if he buys them himself. (We shop at one place he is comfortable going to but he doesn't try anything on so it's a bit of a gamble.)

I will remind him after a couple of weeks because he's aware of the above and put them out for him. If he then chooses not to wear them that's ok maybe next time he'll be ready to give them a try.

This summer for some reason he took to wearing a pair he bought 2 years ago. I was so surprised. :rolleyes: