Superjen Banned - Anyone Else?

[anthony]

The rules never just happened, and in fact they slowly developed over the first couple of years, from me, staff and mostly members back then... slowly adding or subtracting from them to get the right balance. It was aspects raised by members that created the overall rules you see here today.

 

[Brontie]

I’ve been involved with forums for a few years now and I find as we gain more and more experience of them we come to recognise and appreciate the way they are ‘policed’. Ones that are not ‘policed’ very well become a free for all where nothing serious can be discussed without the fear that someone will challenge you. Seeing a forum as though it were someone’s sitting room and you have been invited in should help members to respect admis and staff. But unfortunately, some people just don’t get it. Speaking for myself, if I overstep the mark kick me out - I would.

 

[Nev Hyde]

I like the hard line on grammer, i have been pulled up on two occasions regarding my posts so far and I appreciate any lessons, as one day i would like get something written down and the forum seems a good place to also iron out the bugs in this regard.

I have been involved with HLHS support groups for the last six years and know how difficult it is try to relate to somebody who posted a group of words together. Trying to just make sense of what is written is hard enough, then trying to work out what context is implied can become impossible.

It seems more common today for younger people, on that group anyway, to e-mail more in a texting style. It is very refreshing to read posts that are consistantly written well here and i would be less inclined to visit if anarchy was to reign.

Anyway, keep the hard line I say, i'm sure i will make more mistakes, i hope not, but i do not mind being corrected.

Take care.

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[rjtransient]

Regarding bans and attitude change...

I don't know the situation with Superjen, but I'm not going to investigate. Speaking as someone who is reactive, I've found that becoming too personally invested in the forum can be risky. In the heat of the moment, warnings about the rules make no difference. Anger overrides everything.

Now that I know this, I see the value of keeping a healthy distance from the types of conversations that hit a nerve. I'm giving myself the option of avoiding certain forums, journals, and people. Not out of spite, but because 99% of the time it's either the best solution or the only solution. I gave myself new responsibilities in the real world so that I'm literally too busy to get involved with interpersonal dynamics on the forum.

This is the lesson, I suppose: if the rules aren't working in your favor, do something else. I feel happier and safer avoiding the types of emotionally involved supportive discussions that other people find comforting. After an extended absence, I don't feel chained to the forum anymore. I have a busy life offline, and that is what keeps me healthy. If people still want to spread drama on the internet... well, I quote Ian McKellen: "Oh. Is that what they say?"

 

[anthony]

I avoid discussions all the time RJ... though unfortunately, as the admin, and someone who has studied PTSD and its comorbid symptoms for 6 odd years now, I also can't let misinformation continue, or atleast outline it as such, otherwise the forum begins to become watered down with misinformation vs. factual information.

It is like the DID debate... if you looked alone at how many have come here with DID, claiming they have it as they have been diagnosed with it, the odds are technically impossible that that many people exist with such a rare disorder all in one place. There was a lady who tried to self promote the other day, that an editor caught, DID... she had a blog that she was posting in it under all her different personalities. If you know the disorder, then you would know that is impossible, so the person is a malingerer outright, the exact issue with DID, being people like to say they have it for the fame. It is like PTSD now, it has become the same... though both PTSD and DID are about to change significantly to stop all the nonsense...

Point being... often I am seen as the one challenging things in threads, which kind off comes with my role to ensure the forum remains a factual source of information, and isn't over-whelmed with inaccurate content such as EFT or NLP are trauma therapies, which plenty have tried here over the years... neither of which proved positive for any cognitive function in studies, the same as actual trauma therapies have proven successful within, things like NLP and EFT failed miserably.

I would love to ignore even more things here, like you do... but unfortunately I cannot if I do my job of keeping this forums content topical, of sense, and as unbiased as possible toward any one known, but instead open to all the facts surrounding each known.

 

[aatredes]

I'm still new here and just learning to trust and open up so there's no way I'd want to be banned!

I try my best to keep posts short because as a PTSD survivor, I find it difficult to read long, wordy posts. I can't concentrate well enough.

Thanks for the "heads up" though. I'm sorry you were attacked that way; no one deserves that, especially someone who is trying to help others and run a forum. I've run forums before (3D art related) and have had to do my share of banning and it's never pleasant to do.

Take care

 

[anthony]

I always like hearing from people who have run a forum themselves, or been part off, as they completely understand the issues that arise and the type of people wondering around the WWW just wanting to have fun or be destructive.

 

[Nicolette]

As this thread led to a diverted discussion it can be continued at[DLMURL="http://www.ptsdforum.org/c/threads/diagnosis-dilema-p-t-s-d-d-i-d-the-d-s-m.15968/"] Diagnosis Dilema - PTSD, DID & The DSM[/DLMURL] and may we please try to have this thread back on topic please.... basically forum rules and banning as a result of non-compliance.

Thank you.

 

[Deleted member 487]

Yeah, and I think Anthony banned me once before (don't recall why). Then I left on my own for a while.

But hey, I'm back like a vertibrae!

 

[AmyO]

I don't know if this is one that you will deem pertinent, but I feel a need to fess up myself. I didn't mean any offense to anyone and I posted a reply to a forum about leaving a forum because of disagreements about opinions. I am a new member myself but I felt secure enough to give my opinion when another member who was a former administrator stated theirs.

The other person said they left admin duties because of others acting like high school girls and gossipy. (not an exact quote). I just said that an opinion stops being an opinion when it turns into a personal attack. I didn't quote exactly because I know that there are rules and you don't just sit on your guys' heels and let this forum run itself.

I will gladly leave if you decide to ban me for it, but either way I appreciate all the wonderful insight and support I have received from you all. Thank you for your time and all the work that is done.

 

[Nicolette]

The other person said they left admin duties because of others acting like high school girls and gossipy. (not an exact quote).

There was a stage a long time ago now when the forum was like that hence the tightening of rules including those for staff. There is no gossip going on between staff now that I am aware of and think we have a great, well balanced team - all who know to ask if in doubt otherwise follow the rules.

 

[AmyO]

Thank you. I didn't figure that was the case at all. Everyone here has been such a great source of information, support, and reassurance for me that I felt almost protective of everyone (mom complex kicking in). I do apologize whole heatedly if I offended anyone as that was not my intention at all. You guys do such great things for so many. It speaks volumes as to the compassion and caring you guys feel. You are definately appreciated more than you could ever know.