T Says: "i Was An Arrogant Jerk......."

[Panda Bear]

.....for expecting you to trust me when you weren't ready"

He was sorry.....he just felt that he had done enough to earn my trust......
He felt that he knew how hurt I had really been.....

And then one day he learned just how deeply hurt and scared I really was. And then he realized how wrong he had been all along. That I wasn't just being stubborn and hard headed(all legitimate concerns!)

"I'm sorry for pushing you before you were ready, will you forgive me?"

Holy shit......for real. I'm still not sure what to think of this.

 

[Tinyflame]

It sounds like he is wise, humble, honest, & a bit too hard on himself. And gives you much respect.

 

[Stickler]

Abusers never admit to being wrong and human, right? They act infallible, any wrong is always the victim's, right?

But your therapist isn't an abuser...he was just wrong. He recognizes that. He misread things, and so he was acting incorrectly.

Sounds like he feels remorse about it.

That's what people with integrity do.
They apologize and make amends for their mistakes.
We all make mistakes.
We all learn by making mistakes, in part.

It probably feels surreal and weird.

 

[Deleted member 33052]

He sounds like a very good guy. Not many people in his position would recognize their error, let alone admit it. He's definitely a keeper! :tup:

 

[Ronin]

Seconding all of the above.

He sounds honest, with himself and you, caring, and aware some times intent isn't everything and timing matters. It's important traits in a caregiver, or anyone working with people for that matter.

 

[Suzetig]

He sounds great. One of the most effective parts of therapy for me is that my therapist gives me a different experience of relationships than I'm used to. So, she apologises if she gets things wrong, she tries to meet my needs and is supportive when I express what I need. It's so hard because I expect to be blamed and shunned and punished and when that doesn't happen, I don't know how to cope.

It sounds like you didn't expect him to take responsibility for his part in what happened, but he has and that gives you a new experience in relationship with someone else - which is truly healing, but can feel very strange.

 

[HappyJock]

He sounds amazing! Like others have said, not many therapists would admit their mistakes and he seems really genuine, wise and compassionate. He's a keeper!

 

[Panda Bear]

He's beyond a keeper....
He doesn't get paid nearly enough to put up with my crap.
Each week he hunkers down and sticks it out for the long haul. Never ever backing down or shying away from my challenges.

We've had a rough few months and I'm in aw that he has stood by me.