Taking It Personal

[ladee]

When I first got here, still new, I felt welcomed and was reading a lot, learning things.. now it seems when I post something personal on chat, 'crickets'.... and I am taking it personal... so think what is best for me is to stop participating, well, that was a oxymoron, in chat and just read the forums and share that way.... I know it's just me... but sure did need some input tonight.... got impatient and just left chat..... need to work on me....

 

[joeylittle]

sure did need some input tonight.... got impatient and just left chat..... need to work on me....

The great thing about a peer-support network is that people really understand. The frustrating thing about a peer-support network is that people aren't always in a place where they can help each other. I'm sorry you experienced feeling ignored - but honestly, when there's no-one active in chat (which was the case when you posted), there's no-one active in chat. And it's a bummer but it's the way it is, sometimes.

I guess I'm saying try and not make things bigger than they are.

 

[FindingMyself88]

Often times chat isn't active. I'm sorry you're feeling ignored. I personally never get on chat much. The quickest way to get responses is by posts.

 

[Seasounds]

Yes, write a post. You will get responses.

 

[Rumors]

:(. Sorry I don't chat... To confusing and I can't keep up.

 

[ladee]

Thanks everyone... I take ownership of my feelings.... and I knew not to post a 'problem' but to go to the forums.... brain was scattered and wasn't thinking clearly....I am sorry if I offended anyone with my remarks.... it was just one of those knee jerk reactions ..... will post on the forums in the future...I like this community, have learned a lot and am not going anywhere.... just need to learn my way here .... And the appropriate ways to go about getting feedback.... thanks again.... I took my feelings into chat, already feeling 'not heard', amazing, how after all this time I can still do a self fulfilling prophecy....I just get so tired of struggling, surrendering, picking it up again.... I know you all relate....
So thanks again... I wasn't being ignored, just lousy timing on my part....

 

[FindingMyself88]

No hard feelings @ladee It's easy to get overwhelmed and then hurt when we are struggling. Hope you are doing better today!

 

[Kayle]

It's hard to keep up on chat. It's also hard to tell where someone's head is at if a clear picture isn't painted. Such is the human nature and technical means of communication.

Self esteem, self worth and feeling like you're grasping at straws to make yourself feel relevant with family and friends is a huge issue of mine too. I'm always an open ear if you need to chat. You're definitely not alone.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I rarely go into chat, I am shy and I am a very slow typist so it is so hard for me to keep up. No worries.Hugs.

 

[Changing4Best]

Sometimes I find chat boring, sometimes it isn't, but often it is empty of folks who post in it, even though there are folks who are waiting to read others chatting. If only readers are there, no one will be chatting.

 

[shimmerz]

I absolutely can't do chat. It is too quick for me, I feel like I am budding in on other's conversations, all sorts of reasons. Try posting if you can. It gives one time to think. Not be so much 'on the spot'.

 

[ladee]

From my heart, I appreciate all the comments to this.. I also find chat boring sometimes as I am so much older than most on there..... different interests, ect.... am still learning my way around the site.... and there are some I have come to cherish as cyber friends... Ed Norton being one of them, and some others, that I met on chat.... I am pretty sure I am doing some behaviors to keep myself from becoming invisible..... like I tend to do when the pain gets too large. still a work in progress tho, still trying, still owning what is mine... so please know that all your words that you each took time to respond, was heard... and I appreciate that you understand.... can't think of any other place that would understand like y'all do.... so sending hugs to those that will accept them, prayers for those that pray, and respect for all of you and your daily, or minute to minute struggles.... Thanks for helping me to feel 'a part of', even tho my behavior is not what I would like for it be..