The anonymous function

[anonymous]

S

Not necessarily... On the other hand saying something like "one of my clients circumstances have changed and she needs a form of care that's really triggering for me - how would you deal with it?"... The poster may not want to talk to their manager about specific triggers or PTSD reactions but could get support here.

Thanks. It is more like these things that I have quoted from your post.

 

[anonymous]

I'm anonymous poster #20, this is now my 2nd post in here.
I just wanted to say that I have also used it to respond to a thread someone came on anonymously as who was clearly (to me and others who responded to their thread) experiencing various aspects of (domestic) abuse from their partner (including sexual violence). I went anonymous because I have also experienced domestic abuse and at the time felt very vulnerable talking about it. Also their partner sounds like a real piece of work, similar to one of my exes. Didn't want any potential future repercussions as I know these abusive people are damn cunning sh*theads. Especially as mine knows how to hack into things online.

 

[EveHarrington]

S

Not necessarily. For example, if someone was a home carer for older people it would be entirely inap...

Yeah, but it’s a joke to think that on a forum where we are all anonymous to begin with, that someone would be breaking confidentiality with one layer of anonymity, but be perfectly ok with a second layer of anonymity.

That is, it’s like saying if I talk about someone as anonymous “Eve” I’m breaking confidentiality, but when I use the “anonymous” function, I’m not.

Nope, nope, nope, does not fly.

“Anonymous” I replied to still has no valid argument, is still breaking confidentiality. Her argument makes no sense.

 

[Ronin]

I don't use that function, because I don't believe in anonymity on the internet, nor most of offline life.

ETA: Thinking back, I'd used it maybe once or twice as responding to someone else I didn't want to get into a long thread with, but figured style of writing and reasoning was pretty clear it's me, so not about hiding.

 

[Suzetig]

Yeah, but it’s a joke to think that on a forum where we are all anonymous to begin with, that someone would be breaking confidentiality with one layer of anonymity, but be perfectly ok with a second layer of anonymity.

In which case no one would ever need to use the anonymous function. I can see why someone might post something work related and not want it linked to their forum identity, in which case the anonymous function does add a layer of confidentiality.

My second example which actually doesn't compromise confidentiality in any way, is also the way the anonymous poster said they post about work issues. They don't need to give you a valid argument but it does demonstrate clearly why folk would in fact choose to post anonymously lest their forum identity forever be labelled as unethical when what they've described doing is absolutely fine.

 

[shatter eyes]

I use it after i log off clear my cookies and cache. Login to a VPN random server before i go onto site. Then i ask things i would not feel comfortable in asking like why eat fancy decorated food when it all comes out looking like sh...t anyways. Example.

 

[Deleted member 541]

I’m not about to quote everyone as I hate doing it on iPad, but I wanted to thank everyone for their responses so far. And to @joeylittle for allowing the thread to remain opened.

Some of the responses were very clear in that fear was the biggest issue. I hope that someday, your fear will lessen and you will be able to post without having to hide.

For me, I have nothing to hide from my abusers. They know the truth no matter how hard they try to turn things around. I don’t care if they find me on here, makes no difference. The truth is the truth.

Very enlightening to hear all of the responses so far. I hope that there are more.....

Best,

Wendy. (Hahahha).

 

[lostforgottensoul]

It doesn’t mean you can go online and talk about your clients as long as you don’t use your name or their name. It means you don’t talk about your clients, PERIOD!

My therapist has talked about past and present patients of his to use as an example of something we are discussing or to draw parelles with me and them. It helps me to see things from an outside perspective and it has REALLY helped me. But he leaves out names, where they live, and really any identifying information and even most details. There is no way to know who he was talking about and doesn't go into details of their trauma and only shares enough to help me with what I need help with.

 

[Deleted member 37474]

My therapist has talked about past and present patients of his to use as an example of someth...

My therapist also does this. Especially with things that will help me or others. For example: different ways people have come up with to ground during emdr, she shared one of my visual/breathing things with her whole practice. In her work setting, therapists discuss cases as a group, so we all have a label for confidentiality. So I do believe that there is a less than black and white view of what confidentiality means in a work setting.

 

[lostforgottensoul]

For example: different ways people have come up with to ground during emdr, she shared one of my visual/breathing things with her whole practice. In her work setting, therapists discuss cases as a group, so we all have a label for confidentiality. So I do believe that there is a less than black and white view of what confidentiality means in a work setting.

My therapist has shared piece of other's trauma but non-detailed. Like when we were talking about disocissating he said a client was being sexually abused by her father and would look out a window and see the swingset and disocissate out there. Another time he told me about someone that their father would "discipline" his daughters by making them stand in a corner with no clothes on and how that is sexual abuse speaking about one of my punishments and how that was still abuse. So just non-detailed, have no idea who these people are, no real details of the abuse other then that and zero way to know who this is but just helping me in my therapy. And I don't mind if he shares non-detailed info about my trauma with others like that. As long as its not detailed and as long as no names, where I live, etc then I dont care.

Sorry, I'm not meaning to take the thread off topic. Was just wanting to explain what I meant is all.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I am wondering if anyone has been hurt from an anonymous poster? I know I have been long story will not go into it.

I have been able to reconize some people because of their speech patterns also.

 

[anonymous]

I've not been attacked or hurt by an anonymous one, but have been criticized for remaining anonymous...and that didn't feel too good.