The Different Faces That People Show To Us

[katz]

The best thing I can say is that even the best of people can do the dumbest things. Especially when alc...

Thank you Silver for those words. "a deep well of sadness"
When I read this, I took note because it described a lot of my feelings.

 

[Silver.]

@katz I am glad that resonated with you. I think it is important that everyone is self aware that people carry around so much they do not give us. Keeping that in mind can help us make someone elses day just a bit better
*gentle hugs if you accept*

 

[Deleted member 12723]

It takes me at least a year to get to know someone. If I am with someone who does not hear and see nor hears me out nor understands me I usually disconnect and walk away in peace. This is a safeguard for me.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I do not trust charm or smarm. I can still be conned, my limitations can cause me to let my guard down. Not enough information with those that are vague either. I do not want to judge and condemn but I do want to be honest as possible. I have so much to learn still.

 

[Rani G2]

What are your experiences opinions and guesses about how people present themselves to us, treat us and what that says about them and how we can go about relating to them or not relating to them?

I have an aversion against people who like to represent themselves in a “certain way“. When I say certain I mean explicitly those who are moralistic/preachy, judgemental (Not that I am not judgemental, every human being has that tendency) Talking about the unreflected aspect.
When I read this thread suddenly some signals appeared where I say to myself “never ever ever behave in a way that shows you wanting to be liked“.

I have this strong urge to be very authentic (Again not authentic then) where I would never appear as I would wanna get liked. Usually I say things bluntly, “either you like this or f* off“.

Guess this is not really the answer to this question, just that I am dealing with trying to be something in order to get something in return.