The Fight Side Of Fight Or Flight

[Barconian]

That's sort of experimental, but I'm going to try it out on my wife.

You are very brave lol

 

[WillyKat]

Ha!

"Yes, mmm mmm, and how does that make you feel?"
"Uh huh, and if I cleaned it with twice the amount of soap, would that really make it cleaner or just make you feel better?"
"I see. Yes, and was it really necessary then to yell at me, for not using twice the soap, when the motherf*** increase in the f**king cleanliness level didn't amount to sh**!!!"

Naw, maybe that's not such a good idea.

 

[Notsowild]

I can really relate to your post @Justmehere

I thought I was the only one. I'm actually quite a shy person but when I'm provoked I'll blow up at people. This is very difficult at work. I have been "written up" twice over verbal confrontations since my PTSD diagnosis. And this just isn't me I don't know where this is coming from.

I have to consciously think more when having a disagreement at work. I'll say ( in my head) stay calm, don't get mad, remember to breath.

Great thread

 

[WillyKat]

Staying in your head, staying on top of the wave (and not under it) requires constant vigilance.

And that's something that seems really ironic to me: on the one hand we try to avoid unconscious hypervigilance, but to do that we have to use conscious vigilance.

 

[torturedsoul7402]

I don't have any feedback, just wanted to say I understand. Sometimes I will throw, smash or slam things. I literally "see red" when I'm like this. It's like I've put on a pair of red lense glasses; everything is red-hued, and I get like a tunnel-vision with my "target" in the middle.

My T wants me to take three mindful breaths when I'm upset, but so far I've not been able to accomplish this.

 

[Justmehere]

I have been in the middle of moving and I haven't had time to respond, but I have reading everyone's posts. I am really struggling with this BIG time right now, and I am really encouraged to know I'm not alone and it helps to know what has helped others too.

Trying to ride the waves of these emotions is a skill I have got to learn...

 

[BlackbirdSinging]

If I'm triggered yes. Oh yes. Grounding definitely helps. But before I can do that I have to walk away before I open my mouth. Because once I start my anger feels like it just gets bigger and more intense and I start getting louder and then I start yelling and I start shaking with anger. If I still haven't walked away I'll start throwing things and slamming doors. But then I think my therapist is trying to get me to be open to the idea that I just might have anger problems.

 

[Lina007]

Yes, I understand where you're coming from. It definitely is a safety issue for me, as well. It's as though I have this compulsion to keep all those skills sharp that saved me before in case I ever need them again. I'm also afraid that if I don't if I don't take an immediate stand against a perceived threat, or formulate a plan of action for it, that whatever it is will somehow result in the recurrences of the traumas that brought me here in the first place.