Well done on texting your son!
I know it might seem like we're on "opposite" sides of the PC war... But I don't think there really are sides. The erasure of cis womanhood and girlhood is a huge f*cking problem. To me, I use the language I am comfortable using - which means I as a person use language I agree I should be using, for my own personal reasons. Do I think my way is morally superior? No, not really, but it's the way I am most comfortable existing in the world. I don't ask people to moderate their language, because the world has no obligation. It's possible to investigate shit beyond all sense. I hope you didn't take my post in my diary as directed at you in any way, because it wasn't. Just me trying to make sense of myself and live a life "I" agree with. A bit of a bell weather for my parts.
Everyone just gets to be whoever they want to be, that's what I'm for, not different from you at all, I'm sure.
Everyone is coming from their own vantage point and every vantage point is valid; that's what I hold as a value, and I just reserve the same right that everyone else has.
Not less, not more.
I don't see myself as "opposite sides" of anything, particularly, just another vantage point. Certain things irritate me, just as, I'm sure, certain things irritate you.
Maybe opposite, in that myself as a mother who's lived pretty low on the "first world" food chain, has a vastly different experience, as female, than the sorts of friends and circles you probably travel in, if any kind of "opposite". My version of "female" and "women" sounds pretty different to what your notions of "femininity" entail, but that's ok and I value diversity and difference so, yeah, just different, I guess.
We have stuff in common too, more so than not, with stuff that is important and historical (personally, I'm talking emotional and impactful) so I'm truly grateful to not so feel alone and stigmatized around some of that really hard stuff.
I guess I just come from a different generation and I'm just more reactive to what's held as dear in the popular culture/social media world because I feel sidelined and undervalued in, what I'm gonna be really judgey and say that I see as this new PC climate of millennial righteousness and cuckiness.
I'm a cranky, youngish middle age mamma with loads of millennial offspring, disenfranchised by my elders and my youngstas, alike, hence, a bit cranky and cynical.
And, no, I didn't take any of what you said, personally. I think you'd be straight with me, if you meant something to be directed towards me.
I won't dance around other minorities preciousnesses and entitlements and I sure as hell don't think they'll dance around mine, but I also won't treat people, any people, in a way that strips them of their dignity, I'll just avoid them if I feel it's not safe to be myself around them.
And that seems to be the general ploy I use to survive, say nothing, because I don't like hurting anyone's feelings but avoid them, as much as possible, if I feel like my views might be upsetting or I have to bend too far out of my sense of reality, to keep them from feeling something they don't want to deal with.
It's never been particularly easy or safe being me, more often than not. But then, I reckon you can probably relate to that, more than not, so, not so different.
