Childhood The lonely void that's mother/daughter incest

[frogthroat]

I'm not sure how common mother/daughter incest really is. I've read that it's a rare form of abuse and I'm having a difficult time finding any resources regarding it. Is there anyone here that's experienced this?

I didn't mean to post that yet.

I was wondering how this effects one's view on femininity and traditional feminine roles like motherhood? I'm single, I'm very isolated, and I have a hard time feeling I have a gender. I don't care about being conventionally attractive at all and I'm disgusted by thought of motherhood.

I know incest messes up autonomy but does it mess up gender role feelings? I stray away from anything that might make me nurturing or what's considered traditionally female. I also feel a deep betrayal and confusion to what my role as a daughter actually was.

 

[Rumors]

I don't have an answer but wanted to drop in and tell you how sorry I am that happened to you. Part of my stuff was by another female. It left me feeling a ton of shame and confusion. I am heterosexual and married but I know how confusing it can be to figure out where you fit in. Hang in there.

 

[Same]

I've also experienced mother daughter incest. For the longest time I wouldn't put effort in my appearance. I would dress in baggy oversized clothes to hide my body, I wouldn't shave my legs , I cut my hair. For me, it was way to rebel against my mom since my appearance was so important to her. I also look exactly like her which can be triggering.

Most girls learn gender roles from their mother. They identify with their mothers and look up to them as role models for who they want to be when they grow up. We didn't have that option growing up because we were too busy trying to survive our mothers.

Look up Making daughters safe again. It has some good resources on mdsa and the damage it causes. I wish you the best.

 

[InsertCoinsHere]

I wonder if there are books that can help... Sexual Healing by Wendy Maltz - Is a good book convering the effects of Sexual abuse possibly check it out it might help to clear up your question.