Someone else was dysregulated in response to your reply where you were just confused. It happens, we deal with a lot of sensitive things on here and sometimes stuff strikes a chord wrong. It’s very common to feel responsible for everybody else’s feelings when we’ve been abused, or to be distressed when someone else is upset for whatever reason (directed/to do with us or not). You’re going through a hard time because of this situation, it’s dysregulating, but it doesn’t mean that’s the end of it and that’s what we think of you here. Things happen, everyone gets dysregulated sometimes, and it feels like the world is collapsing a little bit when we feel these dynamics happening again.
I’d be glad to see you posting here again. I know what it feels like to think everyone hates you. I also know what it feels like to be autistic and have a black and white view of difficult circumstances.
What did being misunderstood and told off remind you of? What situations are you reliving right now, and can you spot things that are actually different this time?
When I have misunderstandings or disagreements with my therapist this is the kind of thing I have to think about, I can get very upset and feel deeply hurt when it happens, because of the sludge that I’ve been through traipsing itself into today and telling me it’s an unsafe, unfriendly environment.
(Also, outside of this, some users here might seem angry / like they’re scolding because that’s what we’re used to but they are just direct, no personal attack, just sharing experience and recommendations for things we don’t get. I see them be misunderstood a lot as being aggressive when that’s not the case. Which is ok, it’s alright to not get something or misunderstand things, but it’s easy to conclude we’re being attacked when we’re not, especially with trauma)
