Thoughts About Being Bisexual.

[Nicolette]

Maybe time to lock this thread?

Maybe lets just keep the thread on track and topic thank you..........

 

[anthony]

Nothing against rules has been said, thus as above, keep it on topic, otherwise create a thread about a new topic to discuss it. Opinions are just that, and are neither right nor wrong, regardless how another feels about them.

 

[Recovery4Me]

I am always amazed at this groups' straight forwardness with discussions. Awesome. I am getting there but at a slow crawl. So today, I want to thank those who offered post to support Ayesha's journey for self-exploration. It allowed a form of acceptance in a world of judgement.

Ayesha, one of the groups that maybe able to answer some questions for you if you are still exploring can be found within the Equal Sign Group or Human Rights Campaign-stateside. Although it may be more than you wanted to think about, there is more to a relationship's intimacy then sexual preference. (Clarification-not inferring your considerations held anything wrong.) I just wanted to add that there exist additional considerations for many people who fall in love and commit with the other person (regardless of sexual identification).

The other day, I had a conversation with some friends whom have been together for over 20 years. I asked when did you know you were bi-sexual (they both had had previous relationships with opposite sexed partners). They both nodded in agreement and stated they did not see their-selves as gay or bi-sexual. They had fell in love with each other as a person.

Hope this assist in your journey.:)

 

[Lady of Longbourn]

I will try to answer the rest of your post later but this part got my attention:

They had fell in love with each other as a person.

I feel this way about my husband. I didn't know I was bisexual when we got married but now I look at him just as a person that I love and less at his gender. I love him for him; his personality, his gentle soul, his caring nature. Of course I still love his body but gender doesn't seem as important now.

 

[silkleaves]

I read through this thread with a lot of interest... I am bi-sexual, but it's not really anything I thought about or struggled with. I know that's not too common, but for me, it was a matter of, it is what it is. Mind you, had nothing to do with being in a very open family or anything like that, I grew up with a very restricted, super religious mother who sheltered me from everything. But when you grow up with the idea that every thing is bad, and if it tastes, feels, looks, sounds good then you're going to hell for it (lol *sigh*) then you don't really have a clear idea of what actually is bad (compared to the general view of society I would say) and what isnt.

By that I mean, because of my upbringing, I didn't struggle with being bi-sexual anymore than I struggled with enjoying MTV...I was a bad person either way, so I was just numb to it and left to my own devices to decide for myself what is and isnt "bad", while others who were more exposed to society and what is expected of us has the clear cut idea of what they should feel bad about...our sexuality being one of them. I hope that I'm sort of making sense here!!!

Anyway, my first relationship was with a girl, as a teenager...she is still now one of my closest friends. We don't consider ourselves ex's or refer to each other that way...no more than I do any of the guys I've dated though...history aside, she is a friend. And about 10 years ago, I was in a realtionship for about a year with a women. My bi-sexuality isnt anything I put any more thought into though than I'd assume a straight person would. The only time it comes out is if I happen to mention a girl I dated, usually the story of when she took me out for my 30th birthday and got the band to get me on stage and sing with them....that was kind of awesome lol) and at that point I get a wait..hold up...your date was a woman? But Im so matter of fact about it...and I think that carried over into my relationship with the men I have been with. That it is not a primary driving force or anything that I put significance on, its just a part of who I am, it takes away any self-doubt or worry or insecurity a guy may have.

I really see being in a relationship with a woman absolutely no different than being in a relationship with a man...now I don't mean that they are not different. they are *very* different! lol just that in and of itself, its not like I place any weight or significance of being with a woman in relation to being with a man. Actually, when it comes to relationships, I prefer to be with men.

But regardless, it does not matter, because when I'm in a relationship, I am focused and devoted to that person...I am not exploring what else is out there. I do not give a guy any reason to think he is not enough or that I would rather delve into my interest with being with other women, because I don't have any interest in being with a woman, or any other man for that matter. My interest is in being with him and exploring what we have together. And that is the respect that I would want from the person who chooses to be with me as well.