Toxic Shame

[The Albatross]

With all due respect I would examine "inadvertent trigger".

 

[The Albatross]

To clarify... my emotive reaction to people or situation is my responsibility no one else's. Period. I have not read back and am not inclined to at the moment. That just bugged the crap out of me... people's responsibility is not to adapt to ME. Period.

 

[Tinyflame]

I have to say, I agree with @The Albatross .

I think of triggers as 'on their own' (impersonal, no one's fault) , & mine to own.

Sometimes, often, I don't even realize there is one, or what they are.

It's difficult. :( :hug:

 

[The Albatross]

It's not difficult, it's a question of perceptual bias. "Somebody did something to me" versus "something happened".

 

[The Albatross]

Apologies June bug... was concluding something but yes, you are right... no fault... the tipping point is perception.

 

[Tinyflame]

It's ok @The Albatross no worries, I knew what you meant. I agree.

 

[The Albatross]

Perceptual bias skews everything.

 

[Tinyflame]

Yes. And sometimes I find I have to really really force myself, or realize, during being triggered I can't think clearly within the moment. (Or at least not to the extent I need to/ want to, I have to get out of the 'reacting' first.) I guess that's maybe what they mean by amygdala hijacking. I do remember they said during the fight or flight response some parts of the brain's functions are suppressed (for everyone).

 

[Celtic]

Awww..thank you! Can I ask, what specifically?

Think big!

sorry I have been very busy working on the cognitive distortion piece of PTSD and have not been here for a bit.

What helped me was to study about emotional flashbacks that can be just as debilitating. It's like getting stuck looking at the world (for me) through a child's eyes and all these overwhelming emotions are happening that no child can deal with! But once I realized that it was actually a flashback I was able to start listening to the voice of that child that wanted so badly to be seen, heard, held.

I am always impressed and in awe when someone opens up and shares a piece of themselves like you did in the above quote. I spent lots of my life not being honest with anyone, especially myself... so when I see it, I am kind of in awe. The other thing that stuck me was your insight....I look forward to when I have your knowledge.. lots for me still to do. thank you for asking.


Celtic

 

[Celtic]

@Houdini I'm so very sorry you have to identify with this thread, hugs to you xxxx...

Mary,

watching this post has been a great experience for me. I wanted to send you much love for being brave and for starting this threat and for seeing it through and nurturing it. what a remarkable few weeks it been for you and your journey. I have been busy working on the cognitive distortion stuff and have been away for a few weeks, but I wanted to say thank you for addressing Toxic Shame and I am grateful for all of the lessons and honesty!

Celtic