Relationship Two sets of rules

[sportsgirl]

Do any of you ever feel like there are two sets of rules when you have someone with PTSD in your life? I am feeling that way with my spouse. She feels she can get away with certain things that if I tried to do that I would get called out. Just frustrating and tiring.

 

[Sweetpea76]

The ole double standard... one of the “tells” that he’s getting more symptomatic. It comes with the snark.

 

[Rollercoaster4]

Oh yes. I agree with @Sweetpea76, atleast in my experience that is when the symptoms are increasing. Ex: I raise my voice and oh goodness its the worst thing I could have done to him, where as, he raises his voice and he justifies it because he was "triggered" and I better just let it go, but alot of that can happen and become a pattern when boundaries are not placed and adhered to and their was no conversation after a calming period when the symptoms decreased, thus the double standard becomes a pattern.