Uk Laws With Disclosing Information?

[Deleted member 26314]

I think I will do that, I'm using tomorrows session as a just kind of 'find my feet' kind of thing. A lot of questions to ask etc.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

You're minimizing what is going on to absolve yourself of action. I know you're in a tough place, but as bad as things were for you, it's still not enough to try and save another? I guess I just don't understand this thinking as I didn't report my abuser to save myself, I reported her to save others. Can you be ok with yourself in 10, 20, 30 years looking back and knowing you left your siblings in the hands of a monster?

 

[digger]

I don't think that's fair @Solara - @Katarina19 is 16 and still coming to terms with this stuff herself. Abuse is the fault and responsibility of the abuser not the victims. If she doesn't want to report now, or ever, that is okay and her choice. I know you have strong feelings on this but trying to make people feel guilty for not being as strong as you were or not meeting your moral standards on this isn't on. There is enough guilt involved in abuse already don't you think?

 

[Deleted member 26314]

I don't want to be rude Solara, but that is not fair at all. I already feel guilty enough leaving my 3 sisters there. The youngest is 4. Do you honestly think I don't care about them, of course I do, I didn't want to leave, but I was on an island with a boyfriend who had tried to rape me and still considered me his, and a dad who scared the living hell out of me. I understand where you are coming from, I have heard it from my boyfriend who wants me to go to the police about my ex-boyfriend. But regarding my dad, I'm not ready to. It's as simple as.

 

[Suzetig]

A lot depends on what part of the Uk you are in as age of capacity is different in Scotland, England/Wales and NI. Your NHS therapist should outline for you their reporting duties and be clear about when they may need to act on information you give them and you can, of course, decide how much to share or not. If you want to be able to talk openly without fear of your confidentiality being breached you could think about using a helpline/online service. For example ChildLine don't have a statutory reporting process, would hold confidentiality in the circumstances you describe and will work with young people up to age 19.

 

[Deleted member 26314]

Thank you Suzetig, I might consider childline however, I want to seek help for other issues from my therapist I am currently seeing, and telling her about what happened would make my other issues make much more sense.

 

[Suzetig]

Absolutely, it's good for you to be able to bring everything to one place - your therapist needs as full a picture as possible to support her work with you and doing that work face to face is best if possible. I just wanted to give you another option in terms of disclosure but agree working with your own therapist is always best. Good luck!

 

[Deleted member 26314]

Thank you :) I will consider it if I need to, if my therapist says she will tell the relevent people about what happened then I'll seek help about this at ChildLine or a similar service. ^_^