Relationship Update On My Ptsd Situation

[May1321]

"You have to resist the urge to make rational sense out of irrational behavior. It's like trying to understand perversity. You can't as a normal person. You can learn compassion, but empathy? No way. That would mean personally opening yourself up to insanity which is not your job."

Now that is a great well rounded response from a friend. You are very lucky to have that person as a sounding board :)

"Why am I allowing myself to be guilty for these things?"

Great question to ask yourself... I think only in our self-awareness and our open mind to the world around us can we truly make the steps for getting better at whatever it may be. In this case, taking care of you.

I agree with staying on the forum. I think there are plenty of people out there that may be diagnosed or maybe even more so NOT diagnosed with varying degrees of this and that. Knowledge is Power and as we build ourselves up to be the best we can be, the hope is that we won't have to endure the hardship but at least we will be somewhat further ahead than the last time :tup:

 

[the8track]

Not to regurgitate this thread but I figured I'd rather just do this than start a new one.

Since I went on "no contact" I've cycled between anger and sympathy for this girl. After a few days of not being buried in the drama, I started to see how I could have handled x or y differently. It's hard for me to not want to send her an e-mail just saying "Hey, I can't believe you would treat me this way!". She tried to contact me last night to ask if I thought she was "emotionally abusive" and it was all I could do to ignore it and not go off. But then other times I think to myself, "How bad must this girl's mental torment be to treat people this way?" and I just feel sad and sympathetic for her.

I don't know...just thoughts that I had to get out and tell someone. I don't know what's appropriate for me to feel or if it is all of the above in moderation.

 

[BigBear]

So far, there's nothing new. Therefore I'd avoid changing my decision.

Bear