Walking A Fine Line

[Jline]

James, this is wonderful thank you!* I bet you have had some good results if you have been Tapping for 3 weeks. I did the first video and felt much better... Yes, I had water afterward haha Amazing that such a simple exercise can get our brains working in balance.... energy..... as you said "powerful and real."

I would love to hear about what you have experienced.

When you do it and how often?

 

[James B.]

Hello Jline, so glad you found the above useful.

The following exercise is the one I've been concentrating on. Perhaps due to my age, the old and layered nature of my trauma (and decades of negative doo-doo) this exercise has had quite an effect. I though it would be good to start with this, simple, no words. Well, it was like being hit with a very soft and very pleasant truck size pillow. Was in slow-motion, kind of nicely "wiped-out" for about 2 weeks or so.

It seemed to take about 3 days for my tapping points to "warm-up". Now the effect is predictable and repeatable. I want to say this, but it should be noted the 6 months of exposure therapy I did here prior to starting EFT. After working the Chakra clearing (and, believe me, I am a skeptic) I was sort of stunned thinking, "huh, is this what it's like to not have an anxiety disorder? "

Enjoying the subtle skill building involved in this stuff. It has given me more hope. I wonder? With patching/left hand skills, EFT and exposure therapy to help me face and process my fears, how far can I (or almost anyone) go in terms of recovery, and real healing? The only way I can know, is to try, and it all seems totally safe. Anyway, glad you are experiencing positive stuff from this. My favorite is to flop on a futon and tap in that position. Often 2x/day.

Glad to know you're feeling a bit better Jline, thanks for posting.

 

[Jline]

I did the first video twice and found afterwards I became very cold.....? Has this happened to you James or anyone else?

 

[James B.]

Have had some effects, not getting cold but got kinda sick at one point.

Have heard short headaches can happen too. Am learning to tap through it. Think in the case of EFT I wasn't really aware how powerful a type of therapy it was. It's something I'm taking slow, and working on. Mostly now I notice a warmth, or feeling like my nerves are being covered with a blanket, for lack of better way to put it. For me any type of therapy is likely to "bring things up". It seems my system is rejecting toxins that I'm putting into it. Not surprised. There's way more information at the EFT world center (EFT Universe) web site, also. Lost of ideas how people have used it to deal with things, serious trauma included. Time-lines aren't surprising on some of the case histories; a year or so.

Jline, please give your self all the time you need regarding the recent tragedy in your life. I hope you're doing alright. Take care.

 

[Jline]

Actually I did have a bit of a headache and I wasn't just cold I felt like I was freezing from the inside out lol. I will keep doing it and hopefully will have the warm feeling at some point. A lot has happened and your right I need to pace myself.... god my poor little brain lol. I will check out that web site too. Greatly appreciate the info and help James!!!

Peace *

 

[curiouser]

Jline, I've never felt cold after EFT, but I've heard it's a possible result with different energy therapies because the sympathetic nervous system (fight or flight system) relaxes, leading to a reduction in metabolic rate and a retreat of blood towards the core. This also can explain why some people may feel tired after, which I have personally experienced. Also as James mentioned, EFT is a form of acupuncture, which is a detoxifying type of therapy, so it can be normal to experience feeling a little sick or tired afterward.

 

[Jline]

Thanks Curiouser, I was going to wait for my T to mention this kind of therapy to me. I have only had 2 sessions with her so I wasn't sure if I should bring it up or if I should wait for her to suggest it to me. I am going to do it on my own anyway but was wondering if it is a common thing for a therapist to do with a patient. Does it depend on the T?

 

[curiouser]

It depends on the T, not all know about it, or are trained and certified in using it. It is often seen as more of an alternative approach. I don't think it's as common of a therapy as EMDR, but more research is being done on it as it has shown very good results for PTSD. You can certainly bring it up to your T and ask her if she has any experience with it or is certified in using it.

Doing EFT on your own is fine, however if you have really serious issues you want to address with it, working with an experienced EFT practitioner (someone who is certified in EFT) may be very beneficial to helping you use the therapy more effectively, more safely, and more quickly. Also you don't have to use EFT as a single therapy, it easily compliments many other forms of therapy.

Most, but not all EFT practitioners will have some sort of therapy background, some are just certified in using EFT, and then others are therapists/psychologists who have been certified in using EFT. An EFT practitioner will vary in the amount of clinical hours and experience that they have with EFT, the most knowledgeable ones that have helped over a certain number of clients and have a certain number of clinical hours in EFT are known as EFT Master practitioners. To date, there are only 29 recognized EFT Masters in the world, that I know of.

Sometimes it can be helpful just to see a professional for a few sessions to help you get started, but it's not always necessary. There is tons of info on the web to learn how to do it, and all the extra techniques that can go along with the basic formula, and how to apply it all correctly. There are even a couple of EFT forums where you can go if you need help, or have any questions on it, usually there are two or three EFT practitioners that hang out on them to help others.

Personally, I had a T over two years ago who taught it to me, but he didn't teach me all the basics and so I didn't find it very helpful at the time. I got interested in it again later and started doing my own research and learning of it, and have since had great success with using it.

 

[Jline]

Thanks Curiouser, I am going to keep doing it on my own and wait for her to bring it up. If she doesn't then she obviously isn't into it and that is fine. I did feel real physical and emotional results from the times I did do it so I know it is a viable source of therapy. I have been dealing with a death in my family and I think having that cold physical response perhaps had something to do with the way I am feeling over his death. I will look into the EFT forums for sure. Thanks again, hope you are doing good!
Peace

 

[Jline]

I have been taking my medication everyday and everyday I have a headache, common i'm sure. I did feel a bit pukey during the first week but that seems to have subsided. My T is great with me and even lets me go over an hour, she seems very interested in my tale of woe lol and really helps me to put things in perspective. She doesn't really give me advice but helps me to realize things about myself that I can't see. Helps me to see past the fear, guilt, pain ect. I haven't been thinking straight for a long time lol and she calls me out when I go the long way around and avoid. I have been hiding in my physical body and in my mind as well. I am trying to be patient with myself but I want to be better, braver NOW. They say time heals all wounds but I don't really believe that. Time for me has allowed me to push things down further and let them fester. I hope in time I can see... face my wounds, nurture them and live with the scars of what has happened to me. It seems they have been so raw I just couldn't deal with it all.

Hope all are well! *

 

[Jline]

Sobriety has been a life changing experience for me.... it has been a month of no alcohol, no pot. I have adjusted to my medication and am feeling very grounded and hopeful. I am looking forward to going home and finishing my second novel and painting again. I have plans to submit my first novel and not fear rejection but embrace it and learn, I have never sent it in so...

I am also going to show my art to some galleries. I am still afraid but I know I need to do it. I have been hiding for so long it feels that is all I know. Being in the public eye has been such a struggle for me. I hope I can do it.

Peace to all *

 

[Jline]

It has been a while since I have been on the forum, wow, great changes. Superjen and Jawn, awesome and perfect that you guys are mods!!! I like it. :)

I haven't had a drink in over 2 months and I feel like a different person. Feel very grounded for the first time in a long time, a very long time, lol. I am in a relationship again with my ex husband, it is going good but because of the meds I don't have any sex drive, poor guy haha. He is putting up with that and only cares about my well being and healing. He says he would wait for eternity for me and he has. I am hoping my sex drive will come back as I adjust to the meds, patience, patience.

I have let go of 2 unhealthy relationships I had with men. (unhealthy people seem to seek out unhealthy people) and am feeling like I took my own power back. One of the men was into drugs the other into drinking and smoking pot. My T helped me see that these men had an investment in me staying sick and that made me sick, I just couldn't see it at the time. She also helped me see that it was an excuse for me to stay ill, sabotaging my recovery. I see it so clearly now that I am here, sober, and not in that dream world that drugs and alcohol took me too and literally kept me hostage.

I am back in the city now, not a my moms safe haven... Things just seem so different. I have been having bad dreams pretty much every night but sleeping through them and not letting them control the next day. I am hopeful they will fade as time goes on. I have recommitted to myself and to loving myself, to the understanding that I am deserving of love and good happy future. I wish this for everyone on here and am praying for us all.

Peace *