Walking Away, Not Running Away

[Deleted member 1860]

How about this. I put you on ignore. You put me on ignore. Problem solved.

 

[Belle]

(((((SOL)))))
Can I be honest? Please, please take this as it is meant, from a good place, I honestly think Meadowsweet had a nerve hit and you have had a nerve hit. We have PTSD so it happens all the time, triggers and taking things to heart, It happens to me in the same way so I can see what is happening here. I don't believe either of you meant to hurt each others ((((SOL)))) and ((( Meadowsweet))) Please don't shoot me down ;)

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Problem solved. I won't see her posts again.

 

[simplekindofgirl]

While you may feel that it blocking a person is/was a necessary measure, it doesn't actually solve the problem. This thread isn't about blocking people who have a simple misunderstanding. Of course that being said, with PTSD no misunderstanding is simple.

I'm finally to the point of knowing that I need to just walk away from a number of relationships instead of trying to make them work. (A few are just not healthy, one is actually TOXIC!) I have a knack for finding friends who aren't the greatest fit, and more often than not, I try to hold on to relationships which aren't in my best interest.
... Logically my mind says "these relationships aren't good for you" but my guilty side, well, feels guilty! That is, I'm beating myself up for not staying in unhealthy relationships. Crazy, huh?

And in a later post you said that you were being harassed through text messages and through facebook messages.

Can I ask, with all due respect, what do you find about the friendship to be valuable enough that you could warrant continuing the abuse (harassment is abuse) in order to maintain it? I mean, is there a reason why you have continued to do so? Is it emotional blackmail, or just blackmail, or is the desire to hold on to this friend?

I think that you know what is best for you. I have seen your posts in other threads about tough love, and about not allowing ourselves to be treated a certain way. I just want to understand what your thought process is on your own relationship with this person (who does not deserve your friendship by the way) and why you are beating yourself up for not staying in it when it clearly is abusive.

 

[Deleted member 1860]

Again, please let this post die. It was stupid of me to create it.

Mods, I know you can't delete accounts, but can you just ban me or whatever so I am no longer a member of this site?

And why did I continue these relationships? BECAUSE I HAVE NO OTHER FRIENDS. AND NOW THAT I HAVE NOBODY, I WANT TO END IT ALL BECAUSE THERE IS NO POINT IN LIVING.

We all can't be as PERFECT as you!!!!

The bottom line is that I am stupid. I just want to die because nothing gets any better. Even when I post here I get beaten up for not being smarter and staying in bad relationships. Then within the same breath you beat me up for putting someone on ignore. You can't have it both ways. Make up your mind!!!

 

[Deleted member 1860]

And now I have you on ignore too

 

[Deleted member 1860]

But one last thing, if my writing was harsh and I knew everyone thought I was a b!tch, I would have left a long time ago. I'm not going to stay where I'm hated and unwanted.

 

[Nicolette]

This thread has run it's course and is now closed.

Please be mindful of respecting each other's opinions and not turning a thread into an argument.