What Are You Feeling Today? Not Thinking, Rather Feeling! Can You Identify Yours?

[CraftyCath]

Hubby is on the sick with a bad back so having to put 'me' on the back boiler in order to give lots of TLC to my H! ;)

 

[amethist]

Stick him in the bath with Thyme and Patchouli mixed into some fragrance free bath gel Cath. 5 drops of each.

Just done that with mine, 20 mins soak will work wonders.

 

[CraftyCath]

What's Patchouli amethist? And can you use dried Thyme (not got much left in the garden).

 

[amethist]

They are essential oils Cath. 2 of the cheapest ones, but work so well.

Hubby just got out of bath with a smile instead of a frown, niggly pain now, not an ache.

 

[CraftyCath]

I'll nip to the health food shop tomorrow n see if they have some! Thanks amethist, I'll let you know how he gets on and then I'll try it! :D (Not at the same time as H though!) ;)

 

[Deaf Global Nomad]

Fear of the unknown.

I spent my life moving. I always liked taking walks (in the US, driving would be a valid alternative) around the new city looking around for some fun, but safe places. I particularly loved bookstores, soccer fields, museums, ancient remains (characteristic of the areas), stores, hobby stores, etc... These places were quiet and helped me learn the language without having to interact with anyone. Showing up at soccer fields with a professional leather soccer ball was great. Boys came up to me because they wanted to play with a ball. So soon we had a soccer game going. No need to speak the foreign language yet in the safe places. Slowly I learned and could handle expanding my wings farther and farther.

Also, remember to take it easy in between and become comfortable with your surroundings.

Enjoy the new environment!

 

[Deaf Global Nomad]

I'm afraid...

Yesterday my ILS worker kept telling me that I need to stop LETTING other people hurt me or take advantage of me. When I asked HOW I was supposed to do that he told me to ask my therapist. I see her at 1:30 pm and am scared what she will say.

 

[AngelKeeperJ]

Trying to keep fairly quiet and calm, as I sit here sweating like I've just robbed a bank! Brain is like scrambled eggs this morning. Laid out some truths for my mother. "This is how it will need to be, so that I do not get angry with you." There's more, but I'll save that for my diary. I do feel empowered tho, got a couple things cleared up, and off my chest. That's a pretty big step for me, the NON-confrontative person that I am.

It is truly vital that I do not bottle up anger. I fear my own anger. I can have an evil, gnarly, and slightly sadistic tongue. I need to protect me, and anyone around me, from letting loose, and letting words fly, that I cannot take back. One day when she is gone, I don't want me hating myself.

Thankfully, I was a good nurse, and I know I will be able to 'separate' into Nurse Ratchet, and people have told me I can be intimidating. LOL, I have a hard time seeing it, but am beginning to understand it's going to make dealing a lot easier. I CAN be like my mother in some of the good ways.

 

[Iam]

(((Sqweak))) (((Jo may)))

EXTREMELY anxious.

I have my first appt in a month with my primary T this afternoon. One of his last comments to me as I was leaving our last session is that he has other clients who need to see him more than I do. It was his explanation for not being able to fit me in for a month because of his 10 day trip. I need to talk to him about how that made me feel. I am NOT good with confronting, it scares the hell out of me. He thinks I project my father onto him (they're close in age) and he may be right. The few times I confronted my father as a child and teen I was beaten. The last time my Dad held a boulder over my head intending to crush my skull. I suppose that is where the fear is coming from. GOD I HATE THIS!

 

[Iam]

That's a pretty big step for me, the NON-confrontative person that I am.
It is truly vital that I do not bottle up anger. I fear my own anger.

Great job Angel! Funny, before I read this, I had just posted about being scared to confront my T this afternoon about something he said to me. I'm right there with you! I fear my own anger too.....actually terrified of it, that and crying. It makes it very hard to confront others. Thanks for your encouraging role model :)

 

[CraftyCath]

((((Angelkeeper J)))) ((((Iam))))

I fear my own anger too, I wonder if the anger stems from fear though?

 

[Iam]

It definitely can come from fear Cath....my primary T says that anger comes from fear or hurt. I think mine comes from fear of being hurt LOL!

I've been very angry with my T about his comment last month. I think in this case the anger comes from fear of abandonment. Some of my automatics thoughts point to this. Thoughts like "I should have been smarter than to let him close and trust him. He's just like everybody else. When it comes down to it, he really doesn't care about me."