What Did You Learn This Year?

[Silver.]

So I was reflecting on what I have learned this year, so I was wondering what everyone else learned. I guess you could even write things you have accomplished that you have been meaning to :)

-I learned to not fight the pits of depression, rather just go with them
-I learned that there are good women out there in this world
-I learned that there are some people on social media that I shouldn't go finding
-I learned that sometimes it's okay to practice patience
-I've learned that it's okay to accept help...sometimes
-I learned shading when arting
-I've learned to cope with things I cannot change
-I've learned a great breathing method when anxiety hits thanks to @joeylittle that pretty much has stopped most of my panic attacks, which is a pretty big life changer x

 

[Sunshinekaz]

This year learned to ask for help when i need to .
Stay away from social media. Sites facebook.
Not to push myself to hard and to walk away its not a bad thing as i make it worse of my anxiety gets high.
A lot of people cant and dont want to understand.
I dont need cigaretts stopped 10 months
Its ok to take medication if i need to

 

[ladee]

I learned that even if an emotional abuser is my own son I can and did walk away.I learned that the old saying 'no one can make you feel a certain way' is straight up bullshit. What I learned is that it should say,
I'd you are made to feel a certain way by someone, it is up to US to change that.
I have learned I have very valued friendships on this forum.
I learned that I still have not come close to conquering my stress level.
I have learned to get a real life group of people for support for the mess my son creates.
I have learned there are good men in this world.
I have learned I am further down my healing path than I thought I was.
I have learned to treasure this forum and the people here.
Thank you Silver! End of the year reflections.

 

[Heather]

I've learned that you don't know what goes on behind closed doors.

The people you think you know, you don't.

My world is like a derailed train and I'm fighting like mad to get it upright. How? By learning to be relentless and I don't take no for an answer.

I've learned not to stop until I get what I want.

And I've also learned how exhausting all this is.

 

[Deleted member 12723]

I have learned how to reach out for help from people in my life. I have asked people to do things for me I never would have before this year and I am finding that it is really okay to do that. I do what I can and thank people and do nice things for them.

 

[Ronin]

When in the same hellhole, dig in a different direction.

... About sums all the areas of life I've learned something in.

 

[ladee]

@Ronin , and in some cases finding myself in the same hellhole.. I dug hand and foot holds and got myself out. Not without help and encouragement from you and others. So returning the care and gratitude to you. Maybe it will help a little.

 

[BoN-bOn]

I learned....
-I have C-PTSD :(
-Drinking is only a temporary band-aid for emotional pain & causes a lot more problems in my life.
-It's okay to feel, and to have my own opinions and thoughts.
-I have trouble with intimacy/close relationships.
-I have severe trust issues.
-I have the opportunity to heal from all of my trauma & there is HOPE.
-Family isn't always there for you.
-It's okay to reach out for help when I need it.
-I am not weak. I am brave and strong for surviving all of my trauma and having the courage to recognize that I need additional help to heal (well, maybe I'm still working on learning this one).
-I need to build more positive relationships with people who understand me and help build me up.
-Next year will be better!
:hug:

 

[Lionheart]

I have learned to be kind and compassionate with myself and others,
to take a pause before I act,
to live and to love while I still can,
to take each moment as the gift that it is,
to spend more time in silent contemplation of...
and that life is not about working and making money and possessing things
Nor is it about looking good, staying thin, young, and/or full of energy!
It is more about doing the best we can and being the best that we can be and letting go

 

[Deleted member 541]

I've learned that I am a strong person that is capable of doing what I "can" and knowing when I "can't"

I've learned that sometimes, "doing" isn't the best, and that just letting "be" is more effective.

I've Relearned that when someone is being an asshole to you, the best revenge is to do nothing, and that karma always gets them in the end. Gotta love Karma!!!

 

[Keming]

That my brain is way more messed up than I' thought, and my mind struggles to compensate.
That government systems are more ignorant and cruel than I'd imagined.
That good people can exist (because I met one, so there might be more)
That I'm lonelier than I thought.

 

[Deleted member 29920]

I learned more about nutrition

I learned I need a different type of therapy because going over negative memories made me even sicker

I learned to slow down. Right down

I learned I have a lot of work to do on myself

I learned my anxiety is way worse than I thought it was

I learned I need new doctors