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I don't think of it as staying positive, although I am frequently known as the silver-lining chick, and people accuse me of positivity on a fairly regular basis :shifty: Little do they know! Ha. I DO tend to think of it as 'laugh or cry' (and I'd rather spend my life laughing), and 'embrace the suck' (no need to make hard shit harder), and pure contrary stubbornness.
Optimistic Pessimism.
- I believe it's all going to go to hell. But when it does? We'll sort it.
- We have done so much, for so long, with so little; that we are now qualified to do anything with nothing :sneaky:
- What's the upside?
- I believe there are only 2 things in life which cannot be laughed at / made funny. (Death of a child, & someone else's pain). Everything else? Fair game.
- If it's going to suck? I might as well have fun.
How Can I Turn This Around To My Advantage?
- Classic = The I'm tired lists. You know the ones? I'm tired of hurting, hating myself, being fat, etc.? Those bone deep, pure tired, cheque please, lists? Born of pain and frustration? Turn those around, and that's a goals list biotch! :sneaky: I want better pain management, to be proud of myself, to be physically fit, etc. The MOMENT things get turned around? All of a sudden, we have an action plan. As in goals have achievable steps to accomplishing them.
- Rephrase. Bored? What a terrible word. Does jack shit in solving the problem. So what's a synonym for bored that actually has something useful in it? Uninspired. Voila. If you're bored, you might know you need to do something. :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: But ugh. What? ...Uninspired? Need to be inspired. Catch the fire. Not just "something" but something with oomph, and feels, and pizazz. ((Cough. This particular example is borrowing from a HouseRule in my kid-raising book. I am not an entertainment machine. If you're bored? Awesome! Boredom Breeds Creativity! :D Cough. I get really excited when kids say they're bored. That's GREAT! Can't wait to see what you come up with to alleviate that! Sure, tantrums count, but while distracting they're not much fun. Your choice, but I recommend fun.))
- Reframe. What are some other ways I could think about this? ...I can't afford to get my car fixed. Reframing? Means that I can go to the library and check out some books on car repair. Learn the public transport system. Walk a lot. Ask friends for rides. I'm not trapped. I'm learning mechanics, familiarizing myself with the metro, exercising, socializing. All good things. Especially if I can reframe it enough, so that I get to do these things, instead of have to do these things. Because I really don't have to. I could sit in one place never leaving it. Of course there may be consequences to that, but dammit, if I really wanted to? I COULD do it. So I don't "have" to. And beyond that? If I have legs that walk, and busses that run, and a mind that reads? I'm damn lucky to be able to do these things. So, really, I GET to. Am also choosing to, as I have a lot of other options, the ones I choose are my own. So? What do I actually want to do? Car mechanics 101 or Make Fun of Whatever Idiot Designed These Retarded Bus Routes??? (Seriously, there has to have been either serious brain damage, or alcohol involved, and possibly both :shifty: Our local bus routes MAY have been mapped by getting a syphalitic squirrel drunk and then filming the process of them being chased by the local fraternity across town. Then again, that might have ended us with more functional transport.) Alternatively, I can look into working a job that comes with a car. Or many other choices. ((Fixing = $800. Buying = $219? Well. Math.)) But I can sit at home with a broken car, or I can turn the problem around like a rubix cube, until I get some answers that work in my life.
& other stuff I might update later. But I'm having words issues right now.
Optimistic Pessimism.
- I believe it's all going to go to hell. But when it does? We'll sort it.
- We have done so much, for so long, with so little; that we are now qualified to do anything with nothing :sneaky:
- What's the upside?
- I believe there are only 2 things in life which cannot be laughed at / made funny. (Death of a child, & someone else's pain). Everything else? Fair game.
- If it's going to suck? I might as well have fun.
How Can I Turn This Around To My Advantage?
- Classic = The I'm tired lists. You know the ones? I'm tired of hurting, hating myself, being fat, etc.? Those bone deep, pure tired, cheque please, lists? Born of pain and frustration? Turn those around, and that's a goals list biotch! :sneaky: I want better pain management, to be proud of myself, to be physically fit, etc. The MOMENT things get turned around? All of a sudden, we have an action plan. As in goals have achievable steps to accomplishing them.
- Rephrase. Bored? What a terrible word. Does jack shit in solving the problem. So what's a synonym for bored that actually has something useful in it? Uninspired. Voila. If you're bored, you might know you need to do something. :banghead: :banghead: :banghead: But ugh. What? ...Uninspired? Need to be inspired. Catch the fire. Not just "something" but something with oomph, and feels, and pizazz. ((Cough. This particular example is borrowing from a HouseRule in my kid-raising book. I am not an entertainment machine. If you're bored? Awesome! Boredom Breeds Creativity! :D Cough. I get really excited when kids say they're bored. That's GREAT! Can't wait to see what you come up with to alleviate that! Sure, tantrums count, but while distracting they're not much fun. Your choice, but I recommend fun.))
- Reframe. What are some other ways I could think about this? ...I can't afford to get my car fixed. Reframing? Means that I can go to the library and check out some books on car repair. Learn the public transport system. Walk a lot. Ask friends for rides. I'm not trapped. I'm learning mechanics, familiarizing myself with the metro, exercising, socializing. All good things. Especially if I can reframe it enough, so that I get to do these things, instead of have to do these things. Because I really don't have to. I could sit in one place never leaving it. Of course there may be consequences to that, but dammit, if I really wanted to? I COULD do it. So I don't "have" to. And beyond that? If I have legs that walk, and busses that run, and a mind that reads? I'm damn lucky to be able to do these things. So, really, I GET to. Am also choosing to, as I have a lot of other options, the ones I choose are my own. So? What do I actually want to do? Car mechanics 101 or Make Fun of Whatever Idiot Designed These Retarded Bus Routes??? (Seriously, there has to have been either serious brain damage, or alcohol involved, and possibly both :shifty: Our local bus routes MAY have been mapped by getting a syphalitic squirrel drunk and then filming the process of them being chased by the local fraternity across town. Then again, that might have ended us with more functional transport.) Alternatively, I can look into working a job that comes with a car. Or many other choices. ((Fixing = $800. Buying = $219? Well. Math.)) But I can sit at home with a broken car, or I can turn the problem around like a rubix cube, until I get some answers that work in my life.
& other stuff I might update later. But I'm having words issues right now.
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